I hear lots of very positive feedback from middle and higher leadership in my business as someone at the front of my career—but have very few action items to show for myself in return. No projects, no solid opportunities. Starting to feel like being black and gay is one of the reasons why. How do you all cope?

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Do the seniors who praise you actually have projects and serious proposal bids live right now? If so, just be blunt that you want in. It may be discrimination but there are other possible explanations.

Sometimes weaker seniors like to lock in the best talent to work on the left field proposals and mini projects that are difficult/hard to win. And staff others when they win safe long term projects. Some people like that kind of outsider career track (high risk high return) but you obviously don’t. A good staffing organisation should steer against this kind of behavior but these are strange times.

Get advice from people who know the specific context rather than from us.


Agreed. We’re on the same page. Pivoting internally and externally and always trying to give it a best foot forward—do not like to allow malady to drive the car.

Lease was recently broken, and as soon as I was on a plane I got a ping—very distasteful staffing news compounded with all of this inadequate space for takeoff and/or resource in a “consulting development program”. The change is on the horizon, with or without Accenture.


Sounds like imposter syndrome. Doing a good job at your day to day is worth good praise. Your straight white counterparts are Accelerating in their Career as well for doing well at the job they're doing. don't feel the need to overcompensate

I feel like I have to overcompensate because I’m working 2x and not getting basic results to stay afloat...

OP, have you asked them how you can help? No one is just going to give you an action item starting out. Make yourself more available to these leaders and if you do a good job the first time you’d be set. I also agree with D1, maybe you have some imposter syndrome going. I know I did. Plus, COVID has changed things so many none of them action items to give (doubtful though, but possible).

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