I hired a recruiter to join my team last august, since then she has been fully owning recruiting but she only has a little over a year of experience. However, She is extremely cocky and makes comments about how good of a recruiter she is. As a manager, how do I tell her to chill out? It’s comes off extremely obnoxious, and the last thing I want to someone to come to me and complain.

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Some great takeaways in these comments.

-360 feedback surveys
-Self assessment - is it her, or how I’m interpreting her comments/demeanor? If she were a male, would I feel the same way?
- “Arrogance” vs self assured/assertiveness can all get blurred for some folks, esp at the junior level. Is she perhaps practicing a “fake it til you make it”?
- Maybe ask her why she felt the need to say “xyz” in your next 1:1? Does she feel she’s not being recognized for her successes?

Would love to know how things pan out - please keep us updated on any progress!

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I love that. Asking her why she does what she does. Great idea.

All of you have been wonderful! Thank you so much!!! I appreciate the guidance and advice!! Keep you posted!

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Do you do candidate or hiring manager surveys? If not, this would be a good place to start getting candid feedback on her performance, both positive and areas for improvement. We only give candidate surveys to those that we hire, but if you want to get granular, send them anyone who interviews. How does she treat those who don’t get the job? This can give you tangible, concrete feedback as to what she is going well and areas where she can improve.

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Yes! Corporate recruiting for a tech firm. You safe awesome thank you

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Just be transparent with her and let her know how she feels. I think it's best that she just hears it straight. If she's cocky, there's no need to try and sugarcoat what she's doing wrong

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Arrogant might be a better word 😂😂😂 you’re doing great but your arrogance could detract from how great you are ? Idk just thinking out loud of how to coach and not criticize

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I'd be careful. What if this is just you perceiving her as being cocky and she's just confident in her skills and not afraid to say so vocally? What if the gender was switched and she was a man? Would you still say she's too cocky? I think you need to chill out.

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I don’t need to chill out, when others have noticed. And I’d feel the same if it were a man or a woman. But thanks

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I commend you for expressing your concerns here, but everyone has different personalities. She’s either insecure, or super competitive. Either way, diversity in the workplace also means working around different personality types. It’s like she’s wanting to prove her self to you, so maybe just encourage her in reminding how much you value her contributions, so that she doesn’t feel like the needs to prove herself so much.

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Tbh, Who cares if she is cocky? Does it impact her work? Sounds like she is doing well at work, let her be her. If there is one thing this world does, it’s chip away at your ego! The universe will take care of her.

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Gradually tone her down by pointing out small mistakes but in a very gentle manner, such that she feels slightly embarrassed but not humiliated. I’m sure she’ll come around.

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