I initiated recent dates and texting. He has stopped texting me since Saturday (when he cooked for me and we spend the Friday night together) after I didn't test first. Even though he's an attending physician, it's a clear signal that he's not into me anymore, right? Should I ask him directly to confirm?

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No - if he’s interested he will set something up.

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Giving the advice that I wish I would have taken myself: No.

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There’s no such thing as “closure.”

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He’s not into you. Have many friends who are physicians and they make time to answer my inane questions fairly quickly.

I would do a slow fade unless you’ve been dating for over three months

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OP yeah sounds like he isn’t that into you. I’ve had a situationship with an attorney who regularly worked 80+ hours (I’d stay with him for a while and he would work past 2am every day plus every weekend). In the early stages he didn’t text me back for almost a week. I made excuses for him. Then I saw him regularly responding to his friends on time and realized I just wasn’t a priority. Ended up dating another lawyer at the same firm (haha) who worked the same amount of time but he always responded to my messages and planned pto/coverage to spend getaways with me. Wish I didn’t waste my time with guy 1 - he still hits me up even though I told him I’m dating someone else and unfortunately doesn’t realize it’s because he was disrespectful of my time.

Even if this guy is into you and just doesn’t care to spend time with you/respond in a timely manner you clearly don’t want that in your life since you posted this. Unless you are okay with a guy not texting back except every 3+ days which in that case feel free to wait. Don’t chase him

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Honestly just do what will help you feel better. I know everyone is saying don’t do it, but if it’ll help you move on then reach out. I don’t think there is anything wrong with wanting a clear answer if it helps you stop thinking “what if”?

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You could ask, but to what end? Actions speak louder than words

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Accept that non-communication may be the only closure you get. Don’t set yourself up for more hurt

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Don’t do it babe

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It’s not worth it. Closure is a myth. And like it’s been said here before actions speak louder than words. Why would you want a verbal confirmation that someone is interested in you ? Sounds like a recipe for being hurt

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