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I joined my current firm in the middle of the pandemic and I feel like I’m struggling so much to fit in. I was immediately staffed in the sector that I know. I just don’t feel like my growth is being enabled. I feel like a content monkey doing work I don’t like, and overwhelmed by the volume of work I have to do. I can’t seem to join any biz dev, low visibility internal activities, and my work is not visible to the people in my group. I feel so incompetent. I try to find out what’s going on in

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I am going through the exact same process you described and quitting the firm in 2 weeks. I first thought it was a fit issue for me because I tried multiple projects but there just wasn’t any that aligned with my skillsets and don’t see that happening in the future too. My suspicions about my group were confirmed with a bunch of farewell emails I received from my team in the past few weeks.


I already quit.. went to a tier 2 consulting firm.. so much better and more viability

I am in the exact same boat; however I joined the practice 2-years ago. I feel like my direct leadership doesn't value my background and contribution to the firm. I spent last two years working for folks and on projects that my practice don't give a damn about. However they also cannot place me to their sold project because there is none to little. The people are very much to themselves and I am finding it extremely hard to break into the inner circle. I love working here and some of the people and leadership I have met. I am having challenges navigating my future at the firm. I wish they knew why they wanted to hire me in the first place!


😔 this is quite discouraging.

The other aspects of the project but I feel like my skill set does not apply. I just feel like this org is very hierarchical and I miss my old firm and old manager even if they were a sh1t org. How can I have those relationships with my current manager that I hate the work and don’t want to be in this anymore? How do you manage increasing your visibility? How do you determine it is truly a fit issue or a project issue?

It’s telling that you share my experience while at the same firm. I, too, work for EY and although my perception of the firm is favorable, I don’t know how else to express my frustration. I don’t know if I should talk to my manager and approach it constructively. Or my councilor for that matter. I just want out and I feel terrible because it’s yet to be a year. I’m tired.

Have you tried setting up 1-1 with different people in your practice “just to network”. Getting to know people might help. When they talk about their projects you can mention “oh I’m interested in xyz your doing…I’d love to help with proposal work / work with you on similar projects etc.

I’ve set up more at least 20 coffee chats with people around the practice and asking then to direct me to leaders that I can network with. I am not going to be available for a long time coming. I’m def planning to reach out to BD in the future but my workload is so unsustainable rn (logged 70hrs this past week). I feel like my manager can’t give me actionable direction where I can grow in this project, regardless of the many ways that I’ve asked. Maybe I’m not cut out for this anymore.


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