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I just found out that the person I was with last year is with someone new. We were separated because of distance/covid. It just makes me sad because I feel that covid took away the opportunity for us to be together and further develop the connection that we had. It was unique and hard to find. So much has changed. I’ll get over it and if we aren’t going to be together then I am sure it’s for the best. Just feeling this heaviness today.

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Sorry you are feeling this way. Hang in there, what feels like things are falling apart could actually be things falling in place. Take care of yourself, keep doing things that make you happy, and you will meet the right person for you ❤️

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Thank you for saying that. That helps. Similarly, I’ve told others in this position that when we lose something, to think of it as making space for something even better, so I’ll try to think of that for me.

Please don’t believe in the narrative of “COVID took the opportunity “, it is really unhealthy for you. I’m very sorry you have to go through this, take as much time as you need to process your feelings. We all make choices and decide if we want to stay in a relationship or not. There are many couples that go through long distance, which is just one of many obstacles couples can go through. Not finding a way to go through this obstacle is a symptom that even though your connection was great, your ability to overcome difficulties as a couple wasn’t very strong and that would have appeared in a different way had you stayed together. Take your time to process and move on. We tend to have an over positive view of what hasn’t happen, which is not healthy nor true. Free yourself from it.

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I feel so similar to you. I have no advice, just know you're not alone and you are loved by family and friends. 💛

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Thank you, that means a lot and helps.

I'm in a similar boat. For me, it's always been the case that I either feel strongly for someone or I don't feel anything. I've been dating since I was 21. I'm 28 now and I've only found one true connection so far. Sadly, that ended too and now I have this fear that I won't be able to find that kind of connection anytime soon. It's very scary and I know I shouldn't be expecting that level of connection from everything going forward but it's still happening subconsciously and I don't know what to do. I saw a therapist but I didn't really like her and it didn't help.

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I can relate to this on several points. I’ve always kept an open mind and I meet a lot of people. Most of the time people who I am drawn to are not drawn to me and vice versa. I’m not going to settle for something that I don’t feel strongly about, and I wouldn’t want someone to settle for me unless they feel strongly about me. I also see a therapist but I don’t feel like she really understands or is able to provide any insights on my relationship status.

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I also feel that people easily connect and form relationships and for me it’s been so many years to find something that works. Relationships have exclusively brought me pain. I always heal and open my heart again, and have the same result.

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