I just got a FaceTime from my 5-year old balling her eyes out saying how she misses me and wants to come home. She and her sister left to go on vacation with her moms family yesterday. I started crying and am just hurting so much right now.

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I'm so sorry OP. Hoping you can schedule time to go on your own vacation and show her how much you love her

The beautiful thing about young kids is that they share how they feel with a kind of bold urgency that I think adults can learn from. I know it must hurt to see. Hope you're talking care of yourself in the meantime before you can be reunited

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This is so tough, I've been in a similar situation. My wife and I are separated now for a year, we share two young kids 50:50. My 4yr old son just said to me tonight "I like you. I don't like mom." Yet still he cries that he misses her every time he's hurt. It was so tough to see them go to her place every time, especially when they would cry. I think their emotions just crave the nuclear family back, they just want us both. And there's nothing I can do to fix that. Luckily we get along well, the ex and myself, so that helps. But I still get emotional when they go with her or do fun things with her. I need to constantly remind myself that they want and need time with both of us, it's trying to make the best of the situation for them, but their young emotions are easily triggered to miss us. I hope it normalizes for them in the not too distant future, but I don't know what to expect. So I just try to give them as much love as I can when they're with me.

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Sending you love.

Why didn’t you go? Can you join?

It my ex wife’s family. Their mom and her née husband prefer I don’t go so they can have their own family vacation.

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