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Someone I know who very wise and respected said this:
On good days, give more than you take
On bad days, take more than you give
On balance you will be OK and will get through this. Hang in there.
I take it not an amicable divorce? Sorry you’re going through it... every day, do one thing just for you. Even if it’s something stupid like spending a little extra at whole foods on a juice. Then go somewhere quiet and drink that pricey juice and enjoy every drop. You’ll get through it. Deep breaths!!
You’re tougher than you think. But don’t be afraid to confide in someone at work who will have your back.
I went through one almost 10 years ago - it ended in a restraining order and jail for him on a DM charge. I was so embarrassed - but had to tell my boss. There were days I had to miss for court...Days I just couldn’t pull myself together to get in the shower. But by confiding in a trusted few - I got through it and came out stronger because of the people who helped me and that included work people
I just can’t believe I’m going through this. And we have kids. Thank god they’re not freaking out. But still. How am I going to get through this with them. And the job. And the money! I’m losing like half of what I make. It’s a lot of stress. And I’m seeing a therapist so got that covered. And I’m working with my doctor on a plan for some temporary help from some meds. I’m doing all that and yet I’m still taking deep breaths at my desk and having a hell of a time really focusing on the work. It’s very frustrating. And this is just a place to anonymously vent about it all and maybe connect with some good energy. I want to stay positive. It’s just a lot. A ton actually. It’s a shit sandwich. But then I remember one of my favorite cds saying: When handed a shit sandwich it is best not to nibble .
You sound like you're managing this on your own amazingly. But know you're not alone. Even if you're not close to your team, everyone knows going through a divorce is tough. If you feel overwhelmed, say something to your boss. My therapist told me once you're allowed to reveal only whatever you feel comfortable with. But you can definitely let them know you're going through a bit of a tough time personally - and whether you want to say it's a divorce or just personal family issues - but if you seem a bit unfocused that's why so you can rely on your support at work to give you a little slack if you need it. Either way, you'll get through it and it'd be absolutely normal if you don't manage everything perfectly.
We’re here
My wife and I separated briefly last year (we have a kid) and one of the things that helped me get through it was reminding myself that if things were good in our relationship we wouldn’t be going through what we were going through...it can only getter better for you and for your kids.
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Keep telling your babes you love them no matter what and hug them as tight as possible every chance you get. Been dealing with the same. Feel free to vent if you ever need
❤️ to you. I’ve been through a divorce on the job. No kids, but I can sorta relate. Work became a refuge for me. Not like working crazy hours, but a time to not think about the emotions. That’s never 100% possible. But, as mentioned above, lean on people. The people you trust at work and not at work. Talk to HR. This is one thing they can probably support you on Message if you need some anonymous support. Always happy to be the trunk. I’ve been the leaner on the trunk a plenty.
Sorry to hear :( but hanging there! I just went through a breakup..but I’m sure having to go through a divorce is even more difficult
Hang in there. Sounds like you’re doing as well as can be expected. Good luck! 🍀