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I know my boyfriend earns considerably less than me.. should I tell him my salary?

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@OP To me, the question isn't should you tell him. The question is: Why are you afraid he'll take advantage? Sounds as if you have concerns he will. I say be proud of what you earn because sometimes wage doesn't equal value to society or families. But also understand what is it about those fears you have and determine if that person is a good fit for you. You should not be apprehensive. FWIW, before we married, my wife made 2.5x my salary. Over time, that changed and I now make about 4x hers. Before we rush to judge, I changed careers, she did too. But it wasn't the dollars or what we did, it was what we did together. Be proud of your work and what you get for it. He should be too and respect you regardless. GL!

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Yea, agree with M1. If he asks for the info but you don't trust him enough to tell him, probably means either it s just too early in the relationship or something in your gut is telling you that this isn't the guy you want knowing those details. If he's not asking, there's no reason to tell him. I'm assuming you are a woman based on the thread? But man or woman, you need to be able to trust your partner and finance, imho, is one of those frontiers you get to when you're pretty ready to tie the knot and commit for the long haul.

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Fuck that. If you were a guy you'd never consider not telling your girl for fear it would hurt her feelings. You work hard for what you earn. Own it

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Should you place his balls in a jar that sits on your desk?

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You should get some hundred dollar bills and make him dance for you just to reinforce the point.

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As a guy, I would love to have my gf make more than me. Ideally they would make enough for me to be a stay at home dad

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Definitely shouldn't lie about it, but I don't see a need to bring it up proactively either.

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Yes - how he responds will tell you a lot. Is he normal, or is he jealous or a mooch.

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As a general rule it's better to discuss salaries when you are deeper into the relationship and it doesn't matter as much (five months?). Don't act superior because you make more money and you guys should be fine. Goes for men and women I think.

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If he asks, sure, but I wouldn't bring it up out of the blue.

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Surprised no one else has asked this yet: How did you learn his salary?

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^ not if she doesn't get a pre-nup. Holla we want pre-nups we want pre-nups

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You don't need to talk about salaries. The whole point of money is to indirectly show it off through jewelry, cars, clothes, etc. duh

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How long have you been together and do you want to marry him? I think discussions about money generally go with the serious talks about "our future together."

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🚩 He borrowed money from you? Like, a lot??

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Oh please do.. wife gf and now wife earned thrice as much for many years and it dint create any issues. In fact she just got a great pay hike and is again earning more than me. Just split the date bills and you'll be fine. Honesty is the key

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I refuse to tel my boyfriend my salary don't really know why he needs to know...

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Only guy you can scare off by having a higher salary is your future ex-husband.

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Why do you think you want to bring it up? I tell people I do well or well enough but is there a need to share numbers? If you really want to I would also just say your take home / after taxes and savings amount. Unless you're just trying to throw dollar signs in his face

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OP- why do you think your boyfriend wants to take advantage of you earning more? That very thought tells me that you don't really love him, coz if you did, I dont think you would have posted this

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Yes, how he reacts is an important relationship data point.

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