I know my relationship isn’t right for me. We are different people after 5 years. We still get along fine and love each other, but I don’t think we are as compatible long term. However I know my SO isn’t as doubtful about it as I am bc we talked about It. I am struggling to lose the comfort of our relationship, and having to break their heart bc I still care a lot. Idk. This decision is causing me a lot of anxiety and depression. I don’t want to lose them, but not sure they are right for me.

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find someone who you can feel 100% about. life is too short to be iffy.

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SA1 I have lived this. That means it's time, and you will feel so so relieved when you finally pull the plug.

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Yeah. We currently live together so I’m trying to get my ducks in a row (new place, new job etc) before “pulling the plug”. I know it’s the right thing to do but it’s still hard.

It’s hard, absolutely. But, trust me, you don’t want to be in the same situation a year from now. If you end it, you will look back a year from now and know that you are in a much better place!

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In the same boat. I actually dream of being single. It’s weird having to leave the comfort of everything we’ve built in 4 years but I don’t want to waste anymore of my time trying to make it work just because I don’t want to hurt them right now.

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