I know this topic has come up before but am asking a slightly different question. We have always talked about 3 kids. I discovered I was pregnant with kid 2 the week my city went into lockdown last spring. Entire pregnancy and first 9 months of 2’s life has been Covid. It has been such a vulnerable scary time and I don’t want to be that vulnerable again. I am vaxxed and it’s more about not wanting to be reliant on the medical system vs Covid specifically. Will I regret not going for 3?

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I wasn’t pregnant during covid so I can’t speak to that but just wanted to say that however you feel now might not be how you feel in a couple years. There’s no external reason to force this decision now, unless you have some sort of medical concern that limits your time to get pregnant. My kids are spaced out and I would have never thought I was going to have a third and then I did a few years later.

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Probably not, unless you're a major masochist
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I promise you, two kids is PLENTY! You will never be bored with "just" the two.

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It’s a super personal decision so no one here can really give you a good answer. It’s between you and your SO.

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I guess I’m wondering if anyone else who is pregnant during the pandemic felt this way?

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