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Chief
He's 🗑️
He doesn't respect you, find someone who will.
Rising Star
Probably doing it on purpose. Sounds like a manipulation tactic
Chief
It doesn't sound stupid OP, your concerns are very valid. I also find it strange your SO keeps showing you pictures of attractive women. I mean if it's a one time then maybe it's fine but it seems like it's something he does on a regular basis. That is a red flag for me. I am generally not a fan of sm so I couldn't be with someone that is always on insta esp one that keeps looking at pictures of ""attractive" women.
Pro
Sounds like he's insecure and it gives him some sort of twisted comfort to see you get insecure too. I don't often tell people on this app to dump their SO, but this "little thing" to me speaks volumes. He's not just ignoring your feelings and expressed needs -- he seems to be manipulating you. You deserve someone who listens to you and respects you.
Chief
Personally, I could not date someone like that. Mostly because it would make me feel insecure and jealous. He is playing into your insecurities. You don’t need someone like that around.
Pro
That is so weird and gross. Huge red flag. You are a whole person with dreams and goals and stories, why would he reduce you to your appearance by comparing you to random women on IG? He sounds misogynistic and toxic.
Rising Star
His insecurities on me. Because every other day he shows me a picture of some girl on tv or insta and how she’s so attractive or whatever. They are very attractive - I agree. It’s just that I don’t want discuss this with him and it seems like he’s doing this on purpose so I get insecure. Has anyone experienced this before? Because I know it sounds very stupid but I can’t deal w this on a regular basis
Conversation Starter
Op - Sounds like a lack of respect and immaturity. You’ve voiced your concern and how it makes you feel. He disregards it no matter how many times he apologizes and says he understands. Actions speak louder than words. He doesn’t treat people the way he wants to be treated and that’s alarming. I would pull back as well.
It is very possible he thinks you’re “too good for him” and needs to bring you down a couple levels. How can he do this? Show you attractive women in his eyes.. make you question yourself.. and you’ll be grateful he settled for you.. I’m hoping this isn’t the case but it happens. Just be cautious.
He disrespects you and seems manipulative. He is showing you who he is, believe him. No need to say again what you told him already, or to retaliate. Find it in you to let go, and simply tell him that it looks like you value different things. I’d say it’s not worth leaving the day open. Move on and never look back - you’ll be the whole world for your right person. Don’t risk missing that because you’re this garbage 🗑 person who does not value you. Know your worth and be firm OP ❤️
Chief
How old are you and your partner? You can simply say, “you mentioning/pointing out other women is becoming toxic and unhealthy for our relationship. I have told you before to stop, this is the last time that I will repeat myself. I don’t want to be with someone that does not respect my boundaries”. If they do it again, kick them out.
People will only treat you how you allow them to. Do not be afraid to stop your relationship