I know what all my female coworkers kids look like because they’re always in their lap or in the camera view on meetings. But I can’t say the same for my male coworkers... are men really not helping with their kids during WFH or is this just an illusion of my zoom calls?

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Also, when a kid appears in a man’s zoom, he’s a modern day hero. When it happens to a female, she’s not managing her job.

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YUP

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Google emotional labor. And then google “unpaid labor in the home.” It’s the opposite of an illusion - it’s putting front and center what exists - women are responsible for almost all domestic labor - on top of their paid job.

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My experience at my agency has been that I do a lot of men pitching in with their kids and dogs, and even one of my clients is always having his baby to give his wife a break- but, I’ve heard that is not the common experience by any means (sad as that is)

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I’ve noticed when kids are around (audible) my male coworkers mostly don’t go on camera.

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Also, just because you don’t see the kids on a person’s zoom does not mean they are neglecting their duties as a parent.

I never see either with kids on camera. I’ll hear them in the background but in the last year I’ve only seen two toddlers appear on zoom. One belonging to a male colleague when dad needed to transform the transformer back into the car, and one when mom needed to open the juice box. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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