I left a job I loved to join MBB thinking it would be better. My mental health has declined rapidly (I have GAD and PTSD coupled with substance abuse issues - was in recovery but busting since joining). Thinking of going part time while I look for another job. I feel like I will look like a failure if I leave, but also have to consider my mental health and impact it’s having on my family. Husband is ready to leave but is staying for the children. Am so low right now and feel a bit trapped

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Hope things work out. If you can get the offer you must already be a rock star

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^This!
With a high probability you are very smart, OP! Smart people don’t always fit in the „standard career path“. And thank god they don’t!
I am also in consulting just because I thought it’s the way to go for „smart“ ppl. But now that I have spent 2 years in, I really doubt it.

Not sure why you left a job you loved , but recommend a boomerang back. What level are you? Industry could be much better given your family and WLB needs?

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Good luck OP. Hope you’ll get out of this situation soon. Maybe push back on work because quite frankly all of that is not needed. Focus on what’s important and that’s you and your family

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Good luck working through this, it can get better. As someone that had my partner leave me because I was unfulfilled, with kids, I commend your partner for having the courage of commitment to stick with it for the kids, that is big in my opinion. And maybe as you get through your own soul work - anyway your can - there may be opportunity for a stronger family

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Have you considered going part time and focusing on your mental and personal health? Working part time may help you maintain the structure you need. I say this as a recurring depressive that work causes me to get out of bed and get dressed at minimum.

Maybe a reduced workload for a longer period would be more helpful. I would start looking for full time work once I felt like myself again.

Wishing you the best and I’ve been in a similar position before.

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I wish you the best. Would your husband support you taking time off work?

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