I like my job and live in a cool apartment in a cool city. I travel a lot, I have lots of savings, and I can afford virtually anything I want. I set and meet small goals (ex. run a 10k) regularly...

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Relationships are one of the key components of a happy life. You already know that you’re missing it.

Put in an action plan to solve this. You’re a consultant, so use those skills (project planning, goal setting, etc) to change this. You know what you’re going to regret on your death bed? Being alone.

So...
Go to meetups
Join a sports/rec team
Volunteer every Saturday at a senior home, hospital, animal shelter etc
Reach out to people you lost contact with and plan lunch, drinks, etc

Nothing will change unless you change it. Sending positive vibes your way

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Am in same bucket OP. It’s gotten worse since I’ve grown in the firm. Worked day in and out and now I sit alone on weekends, great savings but no one to spend it meaningfully on and life has become unbearable. Just want you to know you are not alone

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But my life feels hollow. I struggle to make and maintain relationships. I have no meaning or direction. And I don’t know what to do about those things.

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It's sad. Relationships is something that we cannot control. It takes 2 to achieve that. My life is on track too except a meaningful relationship. I enjoy being single and dating myself though but at certain point, this thought hits me too.

OP and D1 has the thought ever crossed your mind that you are just fine without a romantic relationship? Our society puts relationships on a pedestal but fewer know how to keep it going.

If you meant meaningful friendships, definitely need to join meetups, go to events, volunteering etc to meet people to find your tribe

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