I live in Fremont. I really love going for concert/sports event, which usually happens in SF. But every time I need to spend a lot of time trying to convince my hubby to go with me, because he hates the traffic between Fremont and SF especially on event day. And he wouldn't really agree to let me go alone, because he worries about my safety at night.

Any solutions, except for moving to SF..? I'm new in the bay.

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You could take BART together? Then you aren't going alone and you don't have to deal with traffic.

Though TBH I'm recoiling a bit at the idea that you need anyone to agree to "let" you go someplace on your own. Sounds kinda controlling to me from that description!

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Yeah I use BART to get to events in east bay, it's really not that bad. I wouldn't want to do it every day for sure, though.

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What about make it a date night and get a hotel w/the hubby for the occasion? So you don’t rush it and can explore SF the next day or hang out later in SF. Fremont is too suburbia 😅

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I live in Redwood City and have sometimes gone out by myself to events in other parts of the bay. Same reason- my husband doesn’t want to come. If your husband is so concerned about your safety, he should go with you or pay for your late night ubers.

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Definitely controlling. He may have genuine reasons about your safety but no one can stop anyone to do anything in America. How about you drive ? Bart may be an option if you have whole lot of time and energy to waste. How about you drive ? That’s what I do 😂 I give it to my wife

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My first thought was BART as well. I live in the East Bay as well and frequently use BART to get to the City to avoid traffic and parking. I just make sure to park safely at BART (pick a safe BART location, which there are plenty in Fremont, or keep all valuables out of sight and don't use the boot blind in my SUV).

Ditto to the controlling suspicion. I understand a desire for safety for someone you care about but I also hear hints of Control in your statement. Just my thought.

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How about concerts and sports events in SJ?

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If the real problem is “letting you go alone” I’m sure there are many concert/sports enthusiasts who’d be happy to go with you - problem solved.

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