I lost my cool w a coworker I dislike who often follows their own agenda. Others feel the same but I’m afraid I’ll lose my job. I ❤️ my job but don’t know if I can work alongside them anymore. Advice?

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Always apologize when you lose your cool. Even when you don’t like the person it’s never okay. Put on your big boy/girl pants. Be a pro. Find a way to work it out.

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How “important” of a coworker are they? I wouldn’t worry about losing your job unless you went completely crazy or the person you confronted is super high up. Even then, as a one-time thing, you should be ok.

But you’re obviously not ok working with this person. First thing I would do is apologize for losing my cool (not necessarily for what I said, in sentiment). Then I would decide if my current working situation is really not ideal, and I’d consider bringing it up to my boss on how I could possibly transition onto something else.

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Thanks for all the replies! To shed more light and possibly continue advice, a few things here. No, not above or below me, this my peer and I’ve been with the team longer. I wouldn’t say either of us is “more important” however I WAS working on a promotion (added feeing of crap) and feel I am valuable to the agency. Next, this person is very cunning and when I asked to have a convo w me over coffee to address the Situ I was told told they needed to think about it 🤷🏻‍♀️. My bosses are very aware and I have a very good, and open relationship with all of them. They’ve seen the other’s behavior so while I’m not sure what will happen, I do think I have some clout. Also, I did not go crazy or touch or assault or anything like that. I told the person they didn’t know what they were doing and they’d wasted my time (this was also like the 4th convo about the same thing). My manager was also in the room. Maybe I’m just venting bec I care and am disappointed. I can’t transition bec I’m the only one on my team who does what I do. Hopefully this blows over and I can get back to focusing. Thanks for all your help random strangers!

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I think we need more blowing up. I can’t imagine losing your job over being stern (albeit, pissed) with someone. There’s professionalism, yes. But there’s also a massive influx of people who are lazy and full of hubris and need public shaming to understand. I think that you’re not just in the clear. You’re in the right.

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I have lost my cool about a colleague on a 1-1 session with my supervisor. I was pretty vocal about him getting promoted and taking accounts I was nourishing and putting in the right track. As long as you’re pragmatic and logical, you just need to measure your words to not go overboard. We’re in the same pod and I keep contact at minimum because our views (work wise) are almost like day and night. He is a nice dude which makes things harder, but again, I want to be working with people better than me and/or people who are thriving to exceed their own limits. It is a rough situation, but keep doing your shit and if you need to vent, reach out to us ;)

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The only time I do this is when it involves a coworker threatening the agency-client relationship.

So, did your outburst have anything to do with that? I find that it is difficult for someone else to take precedent if that is what prompted your conversation in the first place.

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Dealing with people you don’t like every day is part of being an adult. Suck it up and learn to deal with it unless they are abusive or harassing you.

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Don’t be afraid to lose your job. Go to your superior and be honest. But do try and find a new way around this person and their agenda. I’ve found that people like that eventually sabotage themselves regardless.

Update: I think my job is safe (think). My boss did tell me to say sorry just to get the person to chill out. I told him I am sorry for my delivery but not my words. He “agreed” but said to disarm the situation so we could all move on. I did. The person literally scheduled a meeting to talk (because my offer for coffee was too casual). Long story short...I’m gonna chat tomorrow and just get over this all. I’m a blunt person who hopefully I can downplay my actual thoughts on this and just be a “yes man” and get back to work

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