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I made a comment to a friend about my ambivalence as a childfree person toward family leave policies, and this is what he wrote back.🤬 How should I respond, 🐠??

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“People who birth” 😂🤢🤮

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Right?! Smh.

So you don't want people to be able to take time off to take care of a newborn? I don't plan on having kids, but truly hope people can take the time they need, because they will need it. Having a newborn is so much, physically and emotionally. And if you had the primary care giver come back to work right after having a kid I can guarantee they will not be working at 100% anyways if you are that concerned with having to pick up the slack, you still would.

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100% agree with your suggestion, OP.

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Ngl, your “It doesn’t affect me personally so I don’t care about it” stance is kind of lame (and is just a lame position to take about ANYTHING). I’m shocked your friend was so polite about it. I’m as CF as it comes (I don’t even like kids) but I want my friends and colleagues to have meaningful family leave policies. I also believe that better / more flexible family leave policies will improve the lives of sooo many women, even those without kids like myself.

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But “it doesn’t affect me” is basically what HE’s saying! I get that family leave helps women. But I would die on the spot if a woman with kids ever stood up to advocate for my need to take time off when I have to, say, move by myself... much less stick up for retirement or other policies that benefit people who chose a different lifestyle than she did. Never going to happen!

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To be fair, OP’s never said that they didn’t support family leave policies. Being ambivalence just means they see pros and cons. And objectively, there are pros and cons to every policy.

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I agree - OP isn't arguing against these policies existing because that's not what being ambivalent means. Having mixed feelings about it makes sense because there are pros and cons to the policies and how they affect the company and individual employees.

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OP it might be helpful to clarify your frustration on this response. I would be offended at the “convert” statement myself if what the other person is saying is that they’ll convince you to have kids. But I have no issues with others taking leave if they do have kids

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