I met someone 2 years ago, and were thinking of marrying them. But due to some circumstances we had to live in diff countries. After a few months, bcz of no certainty in sight he called it off, after discussing w me. It was the only mature thing to do and we stopped talking. I met a few people post that, but can’t seem to like anyone as much as I liked him. Should I reach out to see if he feels the same? I am moving to their city soon now, but still no set date. Or should I wait till the move?

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You won’t know unless you reach out so go for it! That said, you have to be prepared to hear that he’s moved on with someone else. No reason to wait if you know you’re moving there. Best of luck OP!

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Thanks P1!!! Also for some reason I know that they are still single! Just not sure if they’d want to do a redo with me though ! And I know I’m moving, but I just don’t have the date yet, could b 20 days from now, could b a month, could be end of the year. And I’m so so scared that the uncertainty factor would again ruin things for us.

Story of my freaking life right here

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That’s the best we can do, right? :) try our best! Thank you A1. I wish you the best of luck.

I agree with principal. Reach out and see what happens! Who knows, but don’t count on it. I don’t get the geography reason, personally. Maybe bc I have the same issue but instead of breaking up we are now officially engaged, doing long distance temporarily and figuring it out within the year. If it’s meant to be, you make it work.

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Honestly, I agree with you on the geography part. But it was sort of an arranged set up for us, and it was a little too soon to be fully committed without any certainty in sight. I was okay, he was not and that’s fine. I understand we can’t force these things, if he needed more time together to be fully into this , I respect that too. At least they were honest and transparent. And that’s the reason that I still think I should wait for me to move there. So if there’s a chance, we can spend time together and take the decision!!

Do it!! Reach out now!! Drum up some excitement so that when you finally get there, you’ll both be super excited to meet!

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I’m already excited, in my dreams !!!

Don’t bring it up until you know when you’re moving and probably best after you’ve already moved tbh

What if it’s too late then? I know they are single now, what if they’re not in a month? It will get so much more complicated, won’t it?

Reach out now! There’s no harm in it. If distance was the issue, then great it’ll get sorted out within a few months it sounds like. If not, you have your answer and can move on from it.

That totally makes sense! Thanks VP1!

Can you expedite your move?

I did my best, and I am waiting for my visa now. I am ready to move the day I get it. It has already taken forever because of Covid, and I just keep wondering what if it gets too late to ask them. Initially the plan was to make the move, and then talk to them. But now I just don’t know :(

Why are you moving to his city? You don’t have to answer I guess, but if there is any tiny sway bc he/she is there, don’t. If unrelated, ok.

Unrelated !! I was supposed to move for personal reasons before Covid hit. That’s the reason we started the relationship. But it just didn’t work out then, because of covid and stuff.

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Shoot your shot, you only have one life to live! Btw are you moving to be closer 🧐?

Moving for work and other reasons.

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