I met with a girl who is born and bought up in States. she said like you people in india lived in horrible backward conditions so guys focus on Money thats why I wont like to hand with Folks who are here for School and settled later on. I told her Baby girl, Till I entered this country, My parent’s didn’t let me cook, wash or work like in states and they paid for school in full and I told her that I feel pity for her as she still has student loans 😊😊 her face colors changed

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Bless your heart, you must feel so proud.

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Sarcasm

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OP, I lived in a rundown place(300 sq.ft) growing up and slept on the floor during my initial years. Trust me, nothing beats the fun of running around the streets of Mumbai with disposed-off bicycle tires :D. Although I am vaccinated, my childhood provided me with unmatched immunity 😃. Also, don’t diss on maids & servants (Bas Kya Bhai!!! ), my friends were probably one of them.

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Same pwc2! Op, Yes dont diss on the maids and servants! Even though we came from not so priveleged backgrounds, look at us, we still managed just fine

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OP, as an Indian girl born and brought up in the states…I can assure you that you are painting us all with one broad brush stroke. I’ve been to India every year of my life and stayed with relatives that have USD million dollar homes and relatives that have solidly middle class homes. We get it. We’re not ignorant about our parents’ country or the broader diaspora.
The anecdotal evidence you’ve accumulated is hardly a representative sample.

Separately…calling someone “baby girl” followed by your pompous statements will NOT do you any favors.

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There is just a simple reply to all of these conversations - educate yourself and don’t generalize. Unfortunately you gave an answer that was full of more generalizations.

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My parents feel proud of me because I paid my tuition fees by myself. There is nothing to brag about my parents paid my fees. You can search this bowl for wife complaining about spoiled brat aka momma boy Indians who don’t contribute anything in household chores or fighting for it.

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Lol, as if Mackie is producing future Elon Musk …

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Baby girl? I lost 10 IQ points reading this

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Losing more as I read OP’s responses to others

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Clearly your folks spent too much on maids and too little on education :p

The U.S., last I checked, wasn’t in the business of ‘buying up’ people.

‘Brought up’

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Thanks M3. Came to say something about being "bought up" and the punctuation.

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So you both made ignorant narcissistic comments based on your privileged upbringings?? Looks like you're made for each other....

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Exactly!

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You showed her! How dare she assume you weren't born into a privileged background!

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Generalization of women brought up here is hard for us to digest too

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OP… no… first gens don’t think that and in bragging you have completely turned off first gen girls who would be willing to give recent immigrants a chance

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A1, agree 👏

Being born bought up in india doesn’t mean we are poor is my point kids

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Bought up? 😂😂😂😂

How did EY hire you OP?
Mommy and Daddy hook up?

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So who won the peeing contest?

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Maids I suppose

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Did you tell her that there are on average two.maids .one for cleaning and one for utensils

And you get someone to iron your clothes lol

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Only 1 car driver?

India, USA, Pakistan, Bangladesh…..whatever country it may be, it is not appropriate to bring up someone’s misery and brag about your own fortune. I personally would stay away from such a person.

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Why do you feel pity for her that she still has student loans? And you couldn’t “digest” what she said so you retaliated by being demeaning to her? Are you sure you felt “sad” or troubled and as such retaliated? Does that really help her understand your perspective or better the conversation in any way? Your privileges / financial standing here or in India doesn’t give you any right to talk to anyone like that. Do better.

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Baby girl?

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Had to read the post 3 times to understand it!

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Oh baby girl... (/s, in case it isn't obvious)

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Well, if a girl thinks that I am too poor or my parents are too poor - then I don't want to waste my time or energy on her.

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What even motivated you to post this in the first place?

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He wanted to use “baby girl” and how privileged his upbringing is.

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Bdw, please improve your articulation as had a horrible time understanding the post.

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You can take that advice too, 'BDW'..

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