I might actually work for the worst partner in BigLaw. Literally tries to crush my soul. And I’m not sure why, I always try to over deliver. I was planning on leaving for another firm but Covid happened. I feel stuck and helpless, but I’m thankful that I still have income. This isn’t a question, just a statement and cry for help.

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I have been there, trust me! I feel like i was raised in hell. But I didn't try leaving until one day i snapped and left immediately without another job lined up and full of bills.

However, good thing is: as soon as I left, it was really easy to find a job and once i did it was really easy excel at it and both because of how hard i was used to work and what i was used to endure.

You can 100% do it, mate, chin up! Not a day goes by that i don't feel good i've left that toxic shit!

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Can you provide some examples?

It’s your life. Your options aren’t put up with nonsense or starve to death. Believe me you’ll be fine. I set limits years ago in my job (leaving the office by a certain time, not going in on weekends unless it was essential, etc). If you don’t set limits no one will ever respect them.

You can find another firm, especially if you’re flexible on location (assume it’s WFH for the time being anyway) and practice area. There is hiring. You are not stuck. And there are a few great bosses and a lot that are not great but at least not sadistic.

I dont understand what would compel someone to act this way.

I have a similar partner and am in a very similar position. The mid associate I work with and I were both trying to plan for our exit back in feb/March but then covid struck. Our lives have been made all the more miserable and we are both in despair. Our partner is unreasonable, unresponsive, demeaning. There’s just this hopelessness for the moment. We both have deep anxiety about everything we do because we are just abandoned on things, get unreasonable timeframes, and just regularly abused

UPDATE: This is still happeninf

Told me that his family was important to him so he would need to go be with them and not to call with any questions while I work on this assignment that was given at 8PM.

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