I miss my single life .
Married for 9 months and not happy. Can’t feel any emotional attachment with my spouse and the thought of separation makes me happy and light. I am 30, male . Marriage is feeling like a burden
Anyone else having similar thoughts? And as a stranger what will you suggest.

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It’s the initial phase after a sex-fuelled few weeks. Don’t worry. Get to know each other first. What makes each of you happy and what causes irritation. Please be open. You need to Compromise in situations which irritate your spouse and ask your spouse do reciprocate the same. Most of the problems will be gone if both of you learn to compromise a few things for each other!!

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Marriage is indeed a huge change in one's life. Give it some more time, and maybe you'll adjust. If you still feel unhappy one year after getting married, talk with your wife. Share what you feel and think. Communication is an important step towards a healthy and happy marriage!

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Agreed. Well said . It was an impulsive decision to marry when I got married

I went through same phase , just think about it why you got married to your partner , you saw some thing , but now you are looking for some thing else . if you see it right through the first thoughts of marrying the person , you have to commit to that thought , that will make you life more easier , the same thing has to do with the job as well , some times if you are really lucky , you get what you wanted , but some times you have to stick to what you have , and with certain thought and effort you will start making things happen the way you wanted. Good luck , when life gives lemons make lemonade .

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was it an arranged marriage or just an impulsive decision? that's why before getting married living together I think is a must for any couple before jumping to the next step. it helps to know your partner better. all the good and the bad. hope it gets sorted out with you and your wife

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Seperate before it goes any further and you have child. Speaking from experience

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Dude I am depressed because I am single, my parents not interested in finding bride for me, although I openly told them I wanted to :(.
I am starting from 0 in dating, at the age of 29, man you're lucky. You got married :), find out what is wrong.

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Sorry to say this but marriage is not for everyone. In India they make everyone think otherwise. Indian culture is oppressive.

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Marriage is a commitment. That would require more from yourself. You are expected to look after not just yourself but also your spouse. I think you should think about this deeper and don't make hasty decisions. I suggest you keepn an open communication with your wife and discuss this matter.

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Laude lag gaye .. give it time else u will come on road

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It'll be like that for a few months, missing all bachelor/spinster stuff we used to do. Let parents take care of other things. Get to know each other, like a friend. Trust me, there can be no other friends like wife being a friend.( That is until both of you know eachother. Else it's a different story 😂 ). When I got married, I found hard to stop being bachelor. Only lasting relationship is husband and wife.(took a long time to get that clearly). Even after your parents only your wife will be with you forever. Not even your kids. Given the weight of the relationship you have to put in a lot of effort, to let her know you will be always there for her. Just hold on to your decision of getting married. It'll be fruitful my friend.

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Dont leave your habits or lifestyle that you were following before marriage. Do whatever you want along with your wife and you may eventually find a best friend in your wife. Give same respect to your wife and complete her wishes also.

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Every marriage starts the same way watch Rab ne bana di jodi u wil understand All is well in the end after 2-3 years

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Think possitive go for outing to some good hill stations or beach. divorce is very depressing , it will break your life for ever.

Hi
Whether it is Forceful or consent marriage, now that you're married, I strongly suggest you to put your 100% effort to make it work for you and your partner before giving up.
I suggest you to work with a therapist (no offense here, they can help you understand many things about ourselves) and find out the root cause of this feeling.
If you learn to find joy in sharing tasks as home and work as a team , you can reduce the feeling of burden.
Communication is the key, and understand what are your expectations for each other.
Work on yourself and try to be the joyful and giving person you can be.
Marriages need constant effort to work for any human being (no exceptions).
Finally, no child deserves to come into a broken marriage. I wish you all the positive energy and well wishes.

Sorry to hear that. I miss my married life. The grass is always greener.

Find a common ground to be happy about. Set ground rules and respect each other's boundaries.
Know about each other's positives. Every person has positives, let us not only focus on negatives which are obvious.

Read 5 Love Language: by Gary Chapman before taking any big decision. It has helped two of my ex-colleague who were about to initiate divorce cause of feeling unloved.

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