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Hi. I thought long and hard over the pandemic about which friends I want to be intentional about spending my time with. I now send a text and ask “hey I’m getting my nails done on x date, do you want to come and have a girls date?” Or “let’s do a double date, when are you free in august?!” I have found that you need to swoop in with a date and make the plan solid. Even better when a google calendar invite is promptly sent out. If people aren’t able to nail down a date and time, and don’t really have any intention of doing so quickly, I move on and assume it’s not going to happen. Eventually these people will come to realize that if they don’t get back to you with a date, then that’s a “no” and you’re going to make other plans.
And this year especially with all the 2020 plans being moved to 2021, everyone is so busy so it’s not a big deal to pick a date a few months away. It gives everyone something to look forward to.
I’ve been joining meetup groups, gyms, fitness classes, bike meets, group meditations etc like crazy. Moved to a city and had no friends where I am but after some months of putting in the time I have a solid few girls to hang out with now. So, I’d suggest picking up your favorite hobby again and finding groups of people also into said thing.
You are not alone in feeling alone 😞 in fact I see others posting similar feelings here. I have tried to tackle it in several ways. None is sufficient but all helped some so layering them, I get by. They are: joining a gym and going routinely to the same class times so I start seeing (and chatting with) familiar faces; asking co-workers I enjoy out for quick coffee walks, texting and zooming more with family and friends far away (like in my old state -I just moved last year too), facebook interest groups (for me, local mom/parent groups) and joining meet ups I found online.
You’re definitely not alone. Feeling the same way.