I moved out to the suburbs about 7 months ago. Between that and the pandemic I have lost touch with friends. I reach out as get “yea let’s hang” but when it comes to making definite plans, crickets. It’s been hard because work is so busy and I have my partners children around too. Struggling to reconnect now that ppl are hanging out again and I don’t get invited. Feeling super isolated and lonely.

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

Hi. I thought long and hard over the pandemic about which friends I want to be intentional about spending my time with. I now send a text and ask “hey I’m getting my nails done on x date, do you want to come and have a girls date?” Or “let’s do a double date, when are you free in august?!” I have found that you need to swoop in with a date and make the plan solid. Even better when a google calendar invite is promptly sent out. If people aren’t able to nail down a date and time, and don’t really have any intention of doing so quickly, I move on and assume it’s not going to happen. Eventually these people will come to realize that if they don’t get back to you with a date, then that’s a “no” and you’re going to make other plans.

And this year especially with all the 2020 plans being moved to 2021, everyone is so busy so it’s not a big deal to pick a date a few months away. It gives everyone something to look forward to.

like

I’ve been joining meetup groups, gyms, fitness classes, bike meets, group meditations etc like crazy. Moved to a city and had no friends where I am but after some months of putting in the time I have a solid few girls to hang out with now. So, I’d suggest picking up your favorite hobby again and finding groups of people also into said thing.

like

You are not alone in feeling alone 😞 in fact I see others posting similar feelings here. I have tried to tackle it in several ways. None is sufficient but all helped some so layering them, I get by. They are: joining a gym and going routinely to the same class times so I start seeing (and chatting with) familiar faces; asking co-workers I enjoy out for quick coffee walks, texting and zooming more with family and friends far away (like in my old state -I just moved last year too), facebook interest groups (for me, local mom/parent groups) and joining meet ups I found online.

You’re definitely not alone. Feeling the same way.

Related Posts

Looking to switch to HR consulting role. If anyone has any leads, please reach out. Thank you!

like

How do you have a conversation with someone that makes an unknowingly inappropriate or insensitive comment that not only impacts you but others around your office?

like

Any recommendation of a therapist in the area to treat depression? Thanks

like

How far or how long would you commute for a job that can launch your career? I have a good opportunity but they want a hybrid setup with 3 days in the office. Commute is 28 miles and would take 35-50 minutes each way. Trying to see if it’s worth it.

like

Hi friends! Do any of you utilize a room separator for your home office? My entire front room of my house is my office, but I’d like a room separator to help me with visual distractions. Mind sharing your space for inspiration?

like
like

I’m having issues with certain male coaches at my school. If you have the same issues, how do you deal with it?!

like

Happy Friday to all the "super lawyers" out there.

Never forget that you're not just super. You're super duper!

Post Photo
funnylike

How do you choose a practice for IVF?
Debating between CCRM and a local small private practice (Susan Trout). CCRM is saying I’d need to wait 6 weeks to first retrieval and an additional 8 weeks to transfer; local doc said *entire process* would take 6-8 weeks. That said, I know CCRM is one of the best and has the latest technology… I just don’t want to wait. What would you do?

like

I am about to join Nagarro next week as a Staff Engineer - Angular. Recently I have seen many posts that people are not getting projects and are on bench for almost couple of months! So my question is - do they have enough projects on Angular? Nagarro

like

audit manager salary in charlotte, nc?

like

Looking to connect with individuals who are on the market for a new home in Austin. Preferably new builds and/or considering buying a lot and building on their own. Resale is okay too! Hit my up in my DMs. Will venmo you for a cup of coffee for ~15-20min of your time.

like

Hi, can anyone refer me to Siemens , yoe 3 years,
Req id 298772
Software Engineer Advanced - frontend/ Full stack
Job family : R&D
On notice period, 45 days left

Thoughts on where to pickup an aftermarket bracelet for a Hamilton khaki field automatic?

like

Looking to go on a short 3-5 day trip, preferably a beach destination. Any safe suggestions at the moment? Flying out of the US and would like to use southwest.

likefunny

How do you stuff down your frustrations with work while looking for another job? My boss is terrible and makes work pretty miserable.

like

Yes please 😂

Post Photo
likefunnyupliftingsmart

Any agencies looking for an intermediate team?

like
like

Does Capgemini give training to lateral hires ? - Associate Consultant is the Designation.

like

Additional Posts in Women in Law

Has anyone used a surrogate? If yes, how did you find them and would you recommend the experience? I really want kids and have not yet started trying to have them naturally but the idea of pregnancy and birth are absolutely terrifying me. I’m sure everyone is nervous about it but my fear is getting bigger and bigger and I just turned 30 so I’m hearing my biological clock ticking.

like

If anyone here is in Maryland or has the Maryland bar and would like to consider a new opportunity, I'm working with a 50 attorney firm started by refugees from biglaw. They are looking for a real estate transactional attorney, an estate planning attorney, a tax attorney, and a corporate attorney. Feel free to reach out if you would like to hear about it.

like

Discovered major pay difference between myself and two new male hires with equal experience. Asked for a raise and was shot down due to Covid and essentially told they make more (were talking a 30k) bc they don’t have my “other responsibilities” aKa my two kids. I know my productivity is effected by parental responsibility but I don’t feel that alone justifies the difference. I know our billable output isn’t drastically different. Not sure what my next steps should be and welcome any advice.

like

Anyone else obsess over your next career move? I’m a senior associate in a niche BigLaw group in DC. I am just now hitting my stride and can really see a path to partnership. I handle my own matters relatively independently, am generating some business, and will inherit a large book of business in my favorite space in the next year or so. The problem is that this isn’t what I want, or at least what I think I want. (Continued in comments).

like

Has anyone experienced “bullying” or shaming by fellow female colleagues? Sometimes feels as though women are more critical of other women than male colleagues...

likehelpful

Does anybody find it helps to “get ready” in the mornings with wfh? I still want to be comfortable with athleisure, but I’m wondering if fixing my hair and maybe a little makeup will make a difference mentally. Feeling so burnt out and unmotivated lately.

like

Recently transitioned to a private firm and am having difficulty getting used to billing. Any advice?

like

I’m currently a junior associate in a boutique litigation firm handling IP. I’ve taken a depo already, will argue in court next month and by all accounts, I am great at it. But I’m miserable. I find the games with opposing counsel exhausting and I despise writing briefs (even if I’m good at it). My pre-law school job was in public relations and I chose litigation because I like to win, but I’m now realizing I like success more than the win-lose. Feeling lost… should I move to transactional?

like

I quit. I was respectful. Thankfully, every person I have told has been so nice, and I wasn't immediately bounced out by my leadership (which has happened), but I have been surprised by my own bittersweet tears. If they actually cared, why didn't they say so sooner? I gave so much, and I was consumed by this organization. I invested in them, but my investment and dedication were not reciprocated, which is why I ever even entertained leaving. I don't know why it hurts, but it really, really does.

likehelpful

My husband and I received separate debt collection notices in the mail on one outstanding bill we never received notice of. I'm planning to send the collection company a verification letter on my behalf only. Can I also draft the same verification letter for my husband (not an attorney) to sign himself and send? Any problems with this?

like

What’s the least amount of time you’ve stayed at a job before leaving and why? Was it ever an issue in the future?

like

Has anyone ever tried the Tracy Anderson method?

like

Had a talk with the partners Thursday, they said I’m not producing enough work at the end of each day. First year associate, new area of law, wfh so they are more “what are you doing every second”. They want me to start turning in a daily log (we are plaintiffs attorneys so no billing normally) any advice? While I appreciate their honesty, I feel like they consider me severely indebted to them that they hired me mid pandemic and “allow” me to work from home.

like

What are some “essentials” you keep in your office? I keep a stack of thank you cards and blank cards that have come in handy. Curious what other tips y’all have.

likehelpful

Does anyone know whether a UK solicitor can practice in Europe?

like

Just found out i did not pass the bar..any suggestions on how to muster up the confidence to take it again especially while now being full time and I have 2 kids.

like

Anyone feel uncomfortable with personality tests being administered in their firm/office? I understand how they can be useful and entertaining, but they’re also another way to categorize and unfairly judge employees and coworkers.

likehelpful

Is it sad that I want to take mental health leave desperately but am worried if I leave in the next month I’ll screw over my team who is already short staffed and has a huge case that’s going to trial at the end of the month? Has anyone taken leave and planned the start date for a few weeks out? Should I worry that I’ll be penalized or given the cold shoulder if I leave now or in the next 2 weeks?

like

I have a bit of a wild question about leaving a position and starting another one. A while back I was invited to speak at a conference, which I’m excited to do. Since the invitation though I’ve been looking to exit my current position. Would it be inappropriate to have my last week of work be the week of the conference? I’m concerned if I leave before I won’t get to attend (current job is paying for my attendance) but if it wasn’t a factor I’d probably leave 2 weeks from now lol

likehelpful

Hoping for some advice on how to properly leverage another job offer to help make another company pull the trigger on you. I’ll explain: I’ve been interviewing with Company A for a month now and have met with GC, CFO, creatives, and today the final round with HR and CEO. I have a good feeling they will extend an offer but it’s not a slam dunk. I think I’m top 2. Company B has extended an offer but one that I’m not really considering (moving to a new city/not enough money). Do I mention this....

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the
Fishbowl app

See what’s happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

A phone with Fishbowl app

Send download link to your phone

OR

Scan your QR code to download
Fishbowl app on your mobile

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy.

Messaging rates may apply

Download app

Sign up for free to view this conversation on Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use and Privacy Policy

Already have an account? Log in

Sign up for free to continue using Fishbowl

By continuing you agree to Terms of Use(New) and Privacy Policy(New)
Messaging rates may apply

Already have an account? Log in

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal