I moved to the US with wife from abroad a few months ago. We had a pretty great life filled with parties and friends. Now I feel like the grind is killing our passion. Any ideas...

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OP where did you move from?

I felt the same. Life here is pretty lonely. We have no roots, no attachment as first gen immigrants so life is v hard.

I would recommend finding activities that interest you. Fitness, sports, hiking, and then start finding groups who like to do these together. That's one way of expanding your network. The easiest way is to find your countrymen in the local city and start from there because eventually you will miss your food, occasions etc

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