I need a little guidance on this one:
I have a team member whose role is to make certain key decisions for our client. When she joined, I learned she has kids in school. I run our meetings. I’ve been incredibly flexible for her schedule, changed meetings around, and have never asked twice about her having to miss any.
She hasn’t stepped up in her role compared to others in her position. I assumed she’s shy and constantly ask for her opinion so to encourage her confidence.
Today I…

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I’m not sure what the concern is “let’s see if (you) can do it” doesn’t seem like throwing you under the bus.

Is she senior to you?

She does seem like a master delegator (a necessity for parents during covid) and possibly a bit of a kiss ass. Keep your boundaries, it’s great that you’re helping her out, but don’t do her work for her.

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Not senior but has been here much longer than me. New to her current role/ department. She definitely kisses up which I actually find counterproductive when certain projects need a critical eye. I’ve been that voice but it’s not technically my role. I just thought maybe she wasn’t confident in making the call before but I’ll be stepping back from carrying that responsibility.

Still not really clear; what would you have preferred she say instead? Is using/learning this tool not in the remit of your role? Is it something she should have taken on herself in your view? Was it a ball she dropped, like it should have been in use already?

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I can’t see how it makes you look bad to suggest you “might” be able to do it, that is more often in reference to bandwidth than anything else. The “might” is leaving an out in case you don’t have time, or interest, or whatever else to take it on. Especially since she’s not your boss. It would have been inappropriate to NOT say “might”.

I can see being annoyed she semi-signed you up for work, but that doesn’t even sound like your issue.

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Was watching a recorded video of her team and our CEO. She completely threw me under the bus with the CEO referencing a task I’ve never encountered and so will need to learn. Her phrasing was “let’s see if person x can do it”. She doesn’t speak half as much in our own meetings. I’m incredibly bummed about this coming from a colleague I’ve been supportive of, especially another woman and need a little guidance on how to handle my feelings about this interaction.

I like this. Thanks PM1

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