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I need advice, has anyone been in a similar sit? Met a guy on Bumble in March. He had gotten out of a 4 year relationship in December. We dated for 2 ish weeks, on date 3 we made out and touched (no sex but we both came). After the date he tells me he needs time to himself, his mind is all over the place. We’re May and he reached back out (to congratulate me for my sisters baby). Said he’s in a much better place mentally, wants to meet up. CONTd in comments

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Give it a try. At least he was honest with you and told you what was going on. If he was in it for fun he'd probably just have ghosted or kept up the physical only act


Seem like a pretty good guy. Give him a chance. If you liked the time together why not?


Give him a chance but try to figure out where he now and how he is healing. March to December may have been a bit fast but he really may really be in a better place mentally.


I’d give it a try but maybe take things slower physically if you are worried he is just looking for fun. I had a similar situation where a guy and I talked and then he needed time to get himself together personally. He reached back out later and we ended up dating for a while. It didn’t work out for other reasons, but his intentions were genuine when he came back around.


I’m scared he’s looking for only fun, not sure I can trust him after he left the what he did (although I completely understand). What should I do? This has given me so much anxiety 😥

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