I NEED ADVICE.
I am a 27F in a 3 year relationship. All of a sudden I recently been feeling like as if I’m unhappy and interested in other people. I have never cheated either has my partner. My relationship has been the best I ever had. Idk why I started feeling as if I’m bored or falling out of love? Our relationship isn’t perfect but it’s the best I’ve had so far. Any advice or what this can be?

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sometimes I feel like it’s hard to get him to do anything in general. He is a huge homebody and I am the opposite. Date nights only happen because or me..

You guys don’t really sound compatible for a long term relationship? It seems to bother you that he’s a homebody. Do you foresee this changing? Just cause it’s the best you’ve had so far doesn’t mean it should be the one you resign yourself to.

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I agree with you. It really does bug me that he’s more on the home body never wants to go out and when we are out he’s complaining about how it’s getting late or something. Then when it comes to doing activities or traveling it’s like pulling teeth. It just breaks my heart because in every other aspect he’s perfect. I told him how I felt last night about me not wanting someone like that long term. So we will see if things get better. Thank you for your advice

I understand what you’re feeling right now. Keeping an open mind is soo important because things will feel “boring “ as you settle in a relationship. It’s the desire to keep it interesting that will determine the longevity of it. He doesn’t sound like it so far from what I understand. I’d communicate my needs and see the response; I reconsider.

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Thank you for your kind words of advice.
I definitely think it might be a phase; other times I find my self no longer attracted to him as a whole, personality wise and looks. Idk why. However, I am the one who keeps the relationship interesting and always planning things but 80% of my ideas get turned down

Have you talked to him about what you’d like him to do as far as meeting your needs?

You told him you want to do date night two times a month? Did he know he had to plan them? Perhaps be more specific and say you each need to plan one!

Role play? 🤪

Our bedroom part of the relationship is 10/10 so I don’t think that’s the issue sadly I think it’s just me and my feelings

Try open relationship

I don’t think we have any fears but I don’t think I personally could be an opened relationship

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