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I need constant validation from manger / client. When a few days go by and they don’t say thanks or something nice I overthink that im now doing a bad job. Or after a good review I overthink again a few weeks later. How to get better?

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You’re the kind of person companies love to string along and then give a 3% raise to

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This is what happens to me.

Therapy. And I'm not kidding. Your worth and value do not come from others. That is an unfair expectation to lay on anyone except your Maker. And SAP1 is spot on, they'll see you coming a mile away and work you to the bone for nothing but scraps.

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Sounds like underlying anxiety issues. If you’ve never been to therapy, it’s worth a try to explore where the worries come from

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What all of these guys said. Suffering from similar issues myself but can't go to therapy, so browsing fishbowl (not a joke or sarcastic comment).

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Are you the same in your personal relationships? Are you the needy type that always has to hear how beautiful / good looking and amazing you are? I don’t have anything to add really, and agree with the therapy recommendation, was just curious if you have the same need in your personal relationships.

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Haha, I can’t say for sure (not a therapist), but having been with someone who also needed constant validations it can be very taxing on your partner. Definitely seek a therapist, but in the mean time you can look up excessive reassurance seeking (which is closely tied to ocd and anxiety) for some recommendations on dealing with it.

Read “ the subtle are of not giving a f***”.

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