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I need perspective. I was scheduled for a bunch of spa services today before a vacation. Early in the morning, a spa lady calls me to reschedule. I tell her I can’t reschedule due to my job. She replies that she remembers me mentioning that from a previous appointment she “helped me rescue.” She never acknowledged knowing me prior to that comment. I was offended as it came across as judging my stress level and availability based on a service I received years ago. Did I get unreasonably upset?

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I wouldn't get too upset. But maybe try somewhere else, considering they're rescheduling on you plus the lady was a bit rude? Rescheduling should be super unusual for a fully-staffed spa.

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I’d be more upset that I couldn’t get the spa services than anything she said or tried to insinuate. I’ll let it roll! But you’re allowed to be frustrated/upset/overreact sometimes - you’re human and remember you don’t need anyone to validate your emotions, rational or irrational : ) and it doesn’t sound like you lashed out or anything, so seems like an innocuous exchange to me!

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I think you got unreasonably upset but understandable for someone who just needs a massage. Girl, I feel you lmaooo

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Also thank you to this community for always being honest and supportive. I did overreact.

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Sounds harmless…

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Your own internal reaction is fine. Think and feel through it. Sounds like you didn’t act out in anger. You thought about and asked people on here for insight and then reflected on it personally. I’d say you did great all around

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She basically said something like ohh o remember YOU and I found it indiscreet and offensive.

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I just don’t want to be known as “that bitch”

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I mean she probably did remember you based on your stress level but who cares? You’re an attorney, you have a stressful job

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