I need to get out of a toxic relationship. I don’t have a car. I feel stuck like that scene from Maid. I’m pre-approved and have a small down payment saved. I just need to do it. What should I be thinking about to stay positive?

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Buying a place may be overwhelming with your current mindset. Rent a place or move in with someone first, give yourself some time to clear your head. Until then, stay detached to everything and particularly from your partner. Do not react. Learn to ignore or react less. I know it's difficult; easier said than done. But it's important that you save your energy to move out, not argue with them or prove them wrong. Let them be right, it's only temporary. Also, don't share all your plans with them If they are abusive. Make your plans silently and leave. You got this in you. You can do it ! DM me if you need a friend to vent.

Also, car is the least of worries. Download Lyft or Uber. You are all set

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Recently left a similar situation. Without knowing any details about your situations you will need
1 A plan for getting them out of the house long enough for you to move things 2 An Identity theft n credit protection service 3 To let your manager know you are going through a tough transition —they can get you in contact with free service providers depending on company

But most of all 4… you have to give an Oscar-worthy performance to make the other party feel like nothings going on. This is huge.

If toxic means you are living in fear for your physical or mental wellbeing… if they are depriving you of sleep, influencing decrease in work output, or making you feel terrified to leave the house for fear of being locked out, let your manager immediately. Contacting the authorities is personal choice.

Staying positive: think about your first night of relaxation after this hell is over. Really walk yourself through the first bubble bath you’ll make for yourself, or the first time you walk your dog without being afraid to return home. It sound silly but that is what got me through. What you’re going through is a traumatic experience. Our brains and bodies respond to trauma in odd ways. The sooner you start to learn about the cognitive impacts of what your body is dealing with the better.

You’ve got this. You’ll be bubble bathing in your safe, new home in no time. Stay strong. (PS wouldn’t jump to static home address…)

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