I never developed boundaries as a child and now it’s messing me up personally and professionally. Where do I begin fixing myself? Any books, podcasts that may help ?

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Therapy. Will take some work but really will help.

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Therapy? And slowly adding “no” into your vocabulary.

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Go to therapy. You won’t be able to handle this with just a podcast

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You can read about throwing a football for years, but until you actually give it a try….

Therapy is probably a good bet, but the biggest changes will require action on your part

If it helps, remember most reasonable people are happy to respect most reasonable boundaries; they just have to know the boundaries exist 😄

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The issue is, I can’t say no or have a boundary when I don’t always know how I feel about something. I usually try to buy time and say I will get back to you but that’s not always possible

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What do you mean

Start saying no to little things :)

How are your boundary issues manifesting? Not being able to say no is only one.

OP you are describing me perfectly. It’s been making me so mad lately that I can never say what I want.

This is a bestseller on the subject.

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Reading comments, I'm not sure if issue is boundaries or assertiveness or being pleasing to a fault. I have a similar personality and therapy is working. Therapy is useful as a slave to plan and evaluate the actual work, which happens during real life. Recognizing an issue is a really important first step, so you're on track!

I had very controlling parents as a child and was bullied really hard too. I felt like I was a pushover and always let people walk all over me. This year, I made it my resolution to stick up for myself and establish boundaries. Ive learned how to say no to people and be assertive. Ive sent out confrontational messages to people who overstepped my boundaries, and man it feels great to finally put ME as a priority! DM me if you'd like to talk further.

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