I once worked with a partner who I think is brilliant and anytime I implicitly ask him to be my mentor (I.e. we should stay in touch, I’m sure I will have questions so I hope it is okay if I reach out. etc), he ghosts me but he does serve as a reference for me anytime I ask and I’ve successfully got a couple of jobs so I’m sure he’s saying good things. Any tips on how to go about building this relationship? Should I just find someone else? TIA

I've got some friends who work remote jobs, and every day I grow more jealous of them during my one-hour commute.

Boyfriend has seemed to be dropping a ton on me lately, even after I got bad news that my company is t doing so hot this week and layoffs are approaching. First it was that we may be moving to another state for his job, then it was that his brother may need to move in with us for a few months after he graduates

It’s just a bit overwhelming at this time and I’m not sure how to communicate through all of this being thrown at me. 3 yrs together and we were friends for many years before that.

Am I right to feel like my partner doesn’t love me after 4 years of dating when they say they don’t want to marry me if I don’t win the H1-B lottery next year? They say they’re not ready to “settle” but they still love me and I’m feeling disappointed and not sure what to make of this

Welcome to all our new members! I hope you will find this group a resource and community for questions, gripes, accomplishments as a single mom and more.

My girlfriend treats me like a Furby.

My SO is a contractor and takes multi-month breaks in between projects. I’ve noticed for years that their personality changes (for the worse) when working, but WFH has made life especially toxic. I’ve tried broaching the subject from multiple angles but always leads to what appears to be blinding anger where they say very harsh /hurtful things. Any advice on how to handle?

My wife and I both work in Big Law and I'm thinking about divorcing her.



That way we can get remarried and take a 3 week honeymoon; I think we both could use the break.

How do wlw make friends? All my friends are straight or mlm

The co-worker I was closest to left the firm this week, and I’m having a hard time staying motivated. It’s so hard when your friends leave :(

Going back to work next month. Have a full time nanny but feel like even that isnt enough. I work all sorts of timezones. Europe has my morning, Asia has my evening. Nanny 9-5? 7-3? 10-6? No clue what will work best and don’t want to be inconsistent with her. Any advice on the return?

I have a baby of 15 months. She is very introvert and start crying if any of friends comes to visit. Can any one suggest things what I can do to make my baby extroverted?

Hello kindergarten teachers I have a question for those in the New York area. I have a son going into kindergarten in a few days. My question is what knowledge is he expected to walk in knowing?

What do you consider a standard amount of time to date before getting married? (Objectively) what numbers have you heard of?

Ever had a relationship end in such a way that you never saw it coming, but it was as if an avalanche had hit you, or a firestorm had swept over you, leaving your charred body waiting for the next breeze to blow it into a little drift of ashes?

FRIENDSHIP problems. Me and my best friend’s relationship drifted far apart during Covid where we don’t talk anymore. Nothing happened, just lack of effort. We used to be inseparable sisters. I tried making the effort to talk, but all I would get is short fake texts. I’m worried that I won’t have any friends or BFF to stand by me at my wedding. My circle of friends to talk/connect is getting smaller. I used to have a lot of friends but now not so much, I’m 27.

How’s your marriage? My spouse and I go through ups and downs but 2021 has been really tough. She has started sleeping in a separate room for 4+months. We are amicable but feels like we are already separated. We plan important goals but no warmth and affection. I have gone from self blame to self empowerment as it is frustrating. Tried many times to talk it out but I feel too much togetherness creates boredom and familiarity resulting in pushing us apart. How’s yours? I am 42M, 2 kids under 10.

Here 28 weeks pregnant and tired of hearing you would need to do this for better lactation, you would have sleepless nights. Can a new mother not figure out on her own with the right scientific knowledge ? Is it important to go by what your parents , in-laws or known ones tell you ?

Family luddites ask about my work and immediately behave annoyed when I start to answer.

Any Dallas/DFW area new moms or locals support groups? New to the area but with covid hard to get out, want to get to know other new moms who are also in the accounting field.

I'm 1 out of 4 siblings, I make the most out of my siblings, do you sometimes double down or not share your accomplishments with your family to NOT seem you are "showing off"? Or should I just live my life?

How do people get a job with 3 months of notice period? Are recruiters really accepting people with the same? Any experiences? I've started looking for a new job and wanted to know how people do it. Please help!

What stocks or funds do you invest your IRA contributions in. Just opened up my IRA last week and looking to see where to invest in.

How many of you have used Math Workshop with your classes? What were some pros and cons?

Has anyone paid for premium processing for their I-140 out of pocket? EY filed my I-140 in June 2021 and is working on my I-485 now. I asked if I can pay for premium processing since the Texas processing center takes 11-13.5 months but I am not sure it will be worth it if the I-485 takes a long time. Thanks!

I still think Biden is going to win this. Just not by the landslide we hoped for.

Hey guys - what bank would you recommend for domestic banking ( I am European so would transfer cash to Europe) . Also for travel what credit card do you use! Thanks

Best places to check put (things tondo, places to eat, etc.) In Punta Cana? Wi be there for 6 days in Feb. Thanks 🐠

Hi Fishes..
How is the compnay Blueconch..? Work cultur ? Projects they have.?
How it's different from UST global.?
Should I consider joining them?

What salary can I expect as a senior sourcing analyst at Kearney?? YOE- 3yrs

I tweet during the day between tasks and my boss recently followed me. Will he think I'm slacking if he sees me tweeting constantly?

How do you get out of work “ruts”? I’ve been in a work rut for going on 1.5 months now and I can’t seem to get out of it. I’m an account executive and luckily the business is still coming in and I’m staying busy, but I’ve just been feeling lazy…. I’ve let things fall through the cracks. I’m not working extra hours like I use to, or working with any sense of “urgency”. I use to jump out of bed every morning to go to work. This isn’t typical me…

What have you done to get out of work ruts?

Digital nomads? I have enough for coastfire and was thinking of bouncing around and teaching English online to stay afloat. Opinions?

Did you end up working in the same branch of engineering as you thought you would?

Looking for a job change
Total Exp- 7 years 5 months
Skill set- UFT, Postman, Selenium

What's the deal with referencing police officers to donuts? And do you actually care for donuts?

Hello fishes,

Can anyone help me with Infosys payslip.
I joined Infosys with a CTC of 24lpa (15% variable)
Today i received my first month salary and it is only 1.06 lakh.
I am feeling low only as in my previous organisation my CTC was 13.5 lpa and i used to receive 97k including tax.
The CTS has been increased to 10.5 lakh but in-hand is only 9k.

Could people who are in-house for life sciences/biotech/pharma share their day-to-day work experiences? Thank you in advance for sharing!

Sometimes clients annoy me. Then I realize I really don’t care what you do as long as you pay me and that is the legal profession for you

For those of you who respond to emails saying you will “revert back” instead of just “revert”, what’s going on here? Do you have a word count you’re trying to meet?

Does anyone know when Foley Hoag associate reviews are? Do they go by calendar year?

In house counsel here who wants to slip in a good word about a few of the associates during evaluation season. Thanks!!

I’ve always wondered how are lawyers chosen to be recognized in magazines or online publications as “Best Lawyers”/“Rising Stars”? I’ve always assumed it’s a circle jerk of some sorts for Big Firms nominating each other, but I have no idea.

Help! Those who use tablets for work: iPad Pro or Surface?? I can't decide between the two. Will be used as a supplement to my work computer (note-taking, marking up docs, remote work, etc.)

Legal Assistant working in Arbitration/ International Disputes. Currently looking to pivot into Business Development at a top law firm (preferably NYC).

Multilingual individual in search of professional development. Any leads please DM! Thank you :)

PSA: today is the last day to enter your February time !!!

I’m a newly-barred first year. One of the partners I work for got me a nice bottle of wine. Am I expected to get the partners I work with and my assistant a gift?

How long does it typically take to clear conflicts? My clients are only about six huge institutional financial institutions.

Do any of your firms have a policy where associates can take time off (either in one continuous period or throughout the year) to devote to career advancement (LLM, other education or opportunities)?

Ideas for a career switch of a 3-year associate working in international arbitration? Any suggestion is very welcome, even if about jobs not strictly related to that field.

Any title insurance underwriting counsel here? Full service real estate attorney looking to focus my practice. I’ve applied to most of the major title insurers these last few weeks and I’m feeling hopeful. I’ve never underwritten title but I’ve searched title, written abstracts, written certified title opinions, advised clients in house, litigated quiet title actions, property line disputes and defended oil and gas trespass cases. I know title in and out. I’m ready.

Looking for tips on how to manage attorney employees. How to ensure that they take me serious and not see me as an admin. I am an operations manager at a midsize firm. Although I’m in my thirties, I look very young and I get the sense that many tend to view me like their teenage daughter. I’ve found that having an authoritarian management style helps but it does not feel genuine.

My toddler is sick and at home with me. My dog just got out of unexpected emergency jaw surgery. I'm also sick, and have been consistently sick for about four weeks (just one cold after another). I'm on edge today, ready to yell even at my cat for annoying me. What time is an acceptable time to break out the Jameson?

Is it wrong to say "thank you" when you're given an assignment? If so, how do you end your response? Just "will do." or similar?

Would you lateral for more money ($100k+ more) if you are otherwise content with your current firm and really like the work you’re doing and your supervising partners/mentors?

Is asking first year associates to hit 215 billable hours normal?!