Went in for a scan yesterday because I was having spotting and cramping at 12 weeks. The OB saw fluid behind the baby’s neck and is referring us to see a high risk doctor immediately. NIPT was negative. I’m panicking. Have any of you been through this?
Philosophical question (not trying to be political, just a genuine question I’ve been grappling with): do you think being pro-choice and pro-vax mandate are logically inconsistent? Both are sincere views of mine, but upon further reflection I haven’t been able to think of a way one position could be completely defended without undermining the other. Goes the other way for pro life/against vax mandates as well. The fact is, they just feel different to me, but I’m not sure why. Thoughts?
I feel like my kids 1st grade teacher is being too strict, but I'm not sure if this is normal or I'm being sensitive because it's my child. E.g. she gave him 2/10 for his math homework because he doodled on the page, colored in the circle that has the page number, didn't draw the word problem neatly, wrote his last name under the name line, and says some of his numbers aren't legible. All his answers were correct, except one where he forgot to fill in the blank. Is this normal? X-posting
Pregnant IBanking Director who will be a single mom needs advice on negotiating maternity leave - I have been with a boutique Ibank for 10 hrs and wish to ask for paid maternity leave and flexible WFH for another 3 months. Can you share any precedents form the industry? Our company policy is terrible (12 wk unpaid) and I wish to use my leverage to advocate for changing the policy for all future parents, not just for myself. Many thanks in advance.
How normal is it to be pulled off a trial team because you tell your boss you are moving after trial? I have a trial coming up first week of Oct. This case has been my baby, and I’m going to try it with my boss. I tell my boss up front that, for family reasons, I’ve gotten a new job and will be moving to another city two weeks after trial will likely end. He then gives my trial witnesses to another attorney, but is still going to make me do grunt work. Is he unreasonable or am I?
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I’m terrified of pregnancy but not of motherhood (except for the noise, kids are so loud). Pregnancy/breastfeeding looks horrible to me, but I’d feel bad about missing out on kids because I was scared of something that wasn’t so bad. It doesn’t help that I don’t know a single pregnant person—in my 30s and none of my friends have children! Any moms out there who can speak about what it’s actually like?
Just got an offer at ACN as a Strategy Manager and HR made it clear that parental leave was 2 weeks fully paid for men. Theoretically up until 12 weeks is covered by NY State ($900 weekly). What would you do? Have you seen men take a few months off for parental leave in consulting even if unpaid?
Help & suggestions please. I don’t have parents and recently had a kid. I am having trouble in recovery and my daughter is a preemie. I am going back to work in December but can’t send kid to daycare due to health. My aunt who raised me wants to visit and help me out , see places too. With the travel ban going away , can she get a visitor visa so that I have someone reliable in the house along with the new nanny. Are visitor visas possible to get now ? MIL is another option but she is aged.
Doctor spouse wants to a start her own practice. I want to work hard and become MD in consulting. Have 1 kid currently. I feel helping wife start her practice will mean my career will have to take a backseat. Thoughts/suggestions ?
Anyone realized their child is a very poor speller? What did you and how did you help them? My child is in 2nd grade and I want to help before it gets even worse. Open to all advice. TIA
So far I’ve been through 1 IVF cycle. I have one embryo that is frozen waiting for transfer. My doctor is wanting me to do another round of IVF to back eggs for baby number two down the road. Has anyone been through this? I know of two people around my age that got pregnant naturally with their second baby after IVF. Does anyone know about banking embryos for future use instead of transferring? My insurance doesn’t cover anything so all this of out of pocket.
Hello everyone Currently am working with shriram life insurance as a Business Development Manager has been from last 2 and half year of experience. Before that am working for yes bank, now am looking for enter in IT sector. Can plz suggest me any references or the thing which i should adopt.
Anyone receive an offer & negotiate a start date months down the road to take advantage of a better maternity leave policy, or any other reason? Wondering how many months is reasonable to ask for.
Asking this question here for a reason. In our culture and set up, a majority of the time is spent in cooking. We usually don’t eat microwave meals. I want to understand how Indian families cope up with all the traveling associates with consulting. Does the mother or father usually stay at home or be in a “light” job?
Asking for a friend so please be kind. My teen nibling dropped a few hints and recently told me that she feels different than her birth gender - knowing that the secret is safe with me and my wife. We are more than supportive and I would do anything for this kid. However, we have a serious dilemma if we should let his parents know or help him share how the situation? Nibling’s family situation is complicated and his parents might divorce soon. Continued…
About to take an offer at EY. Want a baby soon and saw the great news about increased parental leave. Question is, can u use vacation time consecutively with it? Right now most on leave take 5 months
Currently on parental leave. As a father I’m so dang thankful my firm has it and I can’t imagine how my immigrant parents manage to raise two kids without leave.
Does anyone ever feel not respected or in some cases straight up disrespected on airlines or hotels in spite of status due to age, gender, race, or otherwise?
Let's get a thread going of parental leave policies? What's the parental leave policy at your agency
Any UK-based Digital Marketing 🐟 looking for a role with a people-centric global boutique? DM me your skills and I'll share the roles with you!
Worked hard, won business and asked for a raise - got 10%. Now closer to median salary for my YOE. But it’s not in effect until my first year anniversary which is 2-3 months away. Should I accept the raise or negotiate?
Used Skiplagged to book a United flight. Hidden city on a one way saved $300 per person, so was worth it. I know conventional wisdom is to not connect to MileagePlus, but it should be fine if it's just one time, right? Seems like I could just say someone in my party felt sick so we missed second leg.
If you get laid off as green card holder, do you have to go back to your home country? Can I take contract jobs while searching for full time?
Does anyone know the process for applying/changing agencies within Publicis Groupe? What is the typical salary bump?
Happy layoff hunger games
Anyone applying for recruiter roles in tech? Going through interview process to become one. Any advice?
On a call with the CEO talking about diversity and they compare a person with tattoos experiencing prejudice in the office to Black people colleague experiences... Meanwhile last I checked, a tattoo was a choice and removable. Also depending on placement, you can’t see it.
How can I invest more and be smarter with my money? Some facts: Age -24 Salary - 103,000, Rent - 1850$ in New York. Seems like every few months I have a unavoidable big purchase and my net worth is just stagnant. People making less and younger than me are saving and investing more which is so cool. How can I do the same?
Hi 🐠, need some advice. Was told by my manager that time doing research (for info related to my client) is not client billable and has to be charged to the overhead code. This strikes me as fundamentally wrong, esp bc this is a flat rate project so the hours will just affect my utilization / internal metrics, not how much the client is billed. I asked for a non-billable code that counts towards utilization but was told my utilization is fine even though I’d be billing <40hrs & to use OH code
I have an interview for a KPMG Associate Director role and am currently a Senior Manager at PwC. Is this considered a lateral based on the two firms or is it a step up? Any idea what the pay range is for the AD role at KPMG?
I’m waiting on my offer letter from Deloitte and coming in as a senior. I was just wondering what some of the perks are (pto, etc).
EY recruiter wouldn’t give me a solid figure for intl tax manager sign-on bonus. Do you typically have to go through the whole interview process before you get a number?
Hi Fishes, Wanted to know something quickly before making a decision - I am getting 14lpa fixed salary as part of an offer from one the big 4. My variable will be on top of this right? And next yrs hike will be (14 + 14*x% ) hike right to become new fixed?? Please help need to make a decision by EOD or offer will be retracted
Help - If I get my H1 visa stamping (new) in India this Dec, can I go back in February 2018 or are there any conditions as per which I have to stay in the US for a certain period of time?
Is it possible to push back on a parental leave policy? I work at a startup and they’re sharing with me the plan today (I’m the first pregnancy).
From one Desi to fellow Desi reaching out for help ! I have had some luck with MBB firms but failed to convert. I am currently Senior Manager at big 4 with end to end SC experience. I will highly appreciate if folks from MBB/exMBB could spare time to provide me some guidance.
On getting into FAANG. For those who made the switch, what are the typical roles from, say, MBB? How did you go about it? What's needed on the resume if I'm planning 12 months out? Lvl and pay?
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