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I ran into my ex bf/ first love of 3.5 years (part of hs and college). I haven’t seen him since my junior year of college. He was with his fiancé and it was the first time I’ve seen him since college which was many years ago and I’m having all these weird feelings. Not like into him type of feelings (I’ve been with my husband for 4.5 years) and am so in love and happy with him but when I ran into my x it was just so weird and I just wanted to run and cry. Is this normal?

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You are not crying or feeling sad about this person (your ex), but instead your experience and that specific time period during HS and college. Keep it as a good memory and don’t ruin it.

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This happened to me a while ago. I was still in love with her even though I was in a happy relationship now. Took me a long time to admit to myself that I still had feelings for this person I used to date. I just accept now that I have feelings for old people despite having broken up with them. Even though I felt guilty about it before, it’s not unusual at all and it was causing me a lot of grief by pretending like I didn’t.

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I just want to hide under a rock and stay there for a while. I just can’t stop thinking about it and feel really down

The thing is I don’t feel attracted to him at all and I wouldn’t ever want to be with him. I know I made the right decision and want to be with my husband forever. I just never ran into an ex or someone I dated while being with him so it just created very weird feelings that I can’t even explain. It just happened literally a couple of hours so I am probably still digesting but why would I need to digest when it was the past and I am happy now?

Just go see a mental health professional lol. You’re just going to loop back and forth regardless of whatever anyone on here says. It’s clear you still have some residual feelings because if you didn’t, you wouldn’t be making a post. Whether you want to consciously recognize it or not is up to you.

Is he very good looking or doing well? Well, I run into my college ex a while back, he’s bald so no harsh feeling there.

Nope lol

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