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Rising Star
That’s just the way it rolls sometimes. Doesn’t mean breaking up was wrong or that your ex was perfect. Dating and finding a good match is chaotic and not subject to benchmarks of time. Keep on doing it...but it might not hurt to have a chat with a friend or a therapist to see if you’re still comparing people to your ex.
Also, my ex traveled for work all the time and I found out that he’d been cheating on me for the last 6 months of our relationship with a women who he’d also been lying to. He was not perfect in any manner and I’m certainly not comparing anyone to him.
Not everyone is like your ex. There are plenty of guys out there who want to find the one and live a more stable life.
I have been there. There are a lot of ups and downs, but don’t give up! I met my husband 2.5 years after a 4+ years relationship breakup. Therapy really helps!
Rising Star
I never had any luck with apps. Here is my advice - let every trusted person you know know that you are open to a date - and mainly older folks in your life. Who knows who they may come up with. It's a fine line - make sure you don't get anyone overeager to be a matchmaker.
That how I met my partner -older family friend finally put two and two together - he worked with my friends husband and I knew the wife thru my mom. They did a very subtle set up by throwing us together to tend the bar at a party. It worked. And I think it was bc they thought more than these two ppl are single - but that we'd actually get along. (They cared enough to think about that.)
I was also single for years before and had kinda of thought I would be single forever (and was good with that.)
Are there any dating sites out there that are more selective? I’ve tried bumble, match, CmB, even eHarmony but the men on there just aren’t what I’m looking for. I know how I sound, so please forgive me, but seriously, does Philly have any decent bachelors? And if so, where can I find one?? 
I did talk to someone and feel really good about putting myself out there again so I don’t think that’s the issue. I just don’t know where to look.
Coming to the realisation that you don't need a man to live a happy life might be more realistic.
Have you tried hinge? (If it’s still going...) connects you with friends of friends - so inherently selective
Pro
Maybe revamp your profile to attract the type of guy you like? If you’re looking for someone successful and intellectual it’s 100% okay to signal that in your profile - if you want a guy with amazing abs that’s 100% okay to signal that as well! Also don’t be shy about letting a few guy friends look at it to provide feedback. There’s a lot of noise on the site, but if you’re honest about what you want, you’ll get a more self selecting crowd and it’s easy to find the assholes who just copy and paste. I remember changing it up and on my next date met my current SO.
Try the league