I really don’t like my bf’s family but he keeps pushing me to spend time with them. They’re extremely petty & manipulative of their children & it really bothers me. Could I potentially have a convo with him about reducing my contact with them? He loves my family & consistently makes an effort to spend time with them but we’re very low maintenance & I honestly wouldn’t care if he stopped tbh.

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I think sometimes when I first started being around my partner’s family (I was over judgmental to them by comparing everything they did to how my family did things)

But i had to start keeping it in perspective, I was only around them for short instances so I chose to suck it up. And get to know them. Once I stopped trying to analyze them so deeply we developed a better relationship.

You owe it to your boyfriend to try to get to know his family, especially since he makes an effort to be around yours.

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Ugh I know you’re right. It just seems like everytime I give them a chance, they do something that disappoints me. Guess I’m just going to have to suck it up.

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I don’t know my bf’s family and it’s because he don’t like them much ,but family is soo important to me. I say this to say that I would love the opportunity and effort to get to know them, sadly it’s just not gonna happen and have to suck it up that maybe eventually things will change

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Is this something I just need to suck up? I don’t want to hurt his feelings but I’d like to protect my peace.

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