I really like a partner at my firm and I am pretty sure he’s single (I’m also single). I’ve liked him for like a year now and yet I can’t do anything about it. Any ideas? I am female and an associate so I feel like I can’t really ask him out even if/when I leave the firm.

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OP go for it! If you have a crush chances are he probably feels it. I would be careful if you still work there but you mentioned you may leave? That part is a little muddy, what I’m reacting to is your statement “I’m a female...so I feel like I can’t ask him out.”
Pro tip: Women are always in charge.
As the saying goes “Women ____ who they want, Men ____ who they can.”

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KPMG - they can propose but no one has to say yes 🙌🏼 ball is back in our court ;)

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A partner in my office had an affair with one of the managers working for him. HR found out, he got “fired” but wouldn’t accept the buyout offer. So as far as I know, he still collects his partnership distributions doing nothing while she is still working for the firm and they’re still together.

Seems like a great early retirement plan to me...

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Giiirl don’t do it

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isss not worth it

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Try the bend and snap

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Always works in guys 🤣

Instead of leaving the firm you can transfer to another group so you don’t report on any of his engagements and there won’t be a conflict of interest.

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You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. I say ask him out. Even if he says no, then you know where he stands and you can move on. But in my experience, if you have any inclination to believe he likes you then he probably does. Crushes make us doubt ourselves and explain away signs that the person we have a crush on actually likes us. Also, keep us posted as to what you do because I would love to see this work out for you. Good luck!!

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Just a thought

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Shoot yo shot girl. Before someone else does and then you gotta live with “what if”

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The reason I’d be leaving is unrelated to him. The question is more should I send him a nice email after I leave, and how do I invite him out without sounding like a creep?

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I’d wait till I left the firm, but after that just call him up and don’t mince words. If he’s not into 99% of guys would thank you for the flattery and politely say let’s be friends but if he’s into it off you go.

The older I get the more I kick myself when younger for overthinking this and not just saying I want xyz if it doesn’t work out no big deal

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Go for it. I had a crush on my project manager once upon a time. I held off and kept putting off my happiness. 1) because I didn’t think I was good enough. 2) I was afraid she’d find it creepy and I’d get fired.

She started dating someone from work a few months later. Pretty sure they’re getting married

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😥

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Does your firm have a fraternizing policy?

Not sure, but I would never approach him while I still work there. I would however like to invite him out when I don’t work there anymore.

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Go 👏🏽 for 👏🏽 it 👏🏽 find a way to get a drink in with him before you leave like a good bye drink or good bye coffee

Do it. You can always find another job if it doesn’t work. Way too much upside here to pass. Please post follow up.

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