I really want a baby. Im 24 and far from getting married anytime soon so it’s probably going to happen in my early 30s (if I’m being real) but is this normal? Is Mother Nature telling me now is the best time to conceive? I think babies are so precious and I cannot wait to be a mom!

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Same. I’m 23. My brother is 24 and has two kids and I love nothing more than the weekends I get to spend taking care of them! Even if their mom lets them nap until 6pm and gives them to me knowing they won’t fall asleep until at least 1am. 🤭 Id say watching them for the past 4 years has taught me a lot about what I will / won’t do as a parent, so it’s been a good learning experience. And also, I know a lot of parents are probably rolling their eyes thinking you might enjoy 2 days of the weekend but try forever, but I’d 100% do it in a heartbeat at this point. I feel like it brings so much purpose and I just love loving them and watching them grow and learn. ❤️

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I used to want a baby SO BAD when i was your age. Then I dont know what happened and for most of my late twenties and early to mid 30s I was hardcore ANTI BABY. now I’m almost 40 and getting married and want one. ONE. Anyway what I’m trying to say is, your feelings on this matter may change. You can certainly do this on your own, if that’s what you really want! But I’m personally really happy that I spent all that time by myself and with friends instead of being a mom. I feel like i got to experience a life that some of my mom friends wish they had. Just some food for thought.

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Same I used to want 6 and now I want 0 to 1 lol

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Do you want to take one of ours? I’m willing to rent them out until you are ready to have your own. A part time rental like you keeping them (or just one. No pressure) during the day is fine too. 😂

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I'm 26M about to be a first time dad. I always wanted to be a father young so I could have the energy to play sports and do activities with my kids. I can't wait.

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A message from someone 12 years older than you- that energy still exists 😊😊

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Oh please please wait. I wanted one at 24 too but I waited. I saw the world, expanded my views and cultural knowledge, met new friends, excelled at my career, and met the love of my life that I wouldn’t have otherwise. I changed in ways I couldn’t imagine becoming more confident and strong in my beliefs. You also have no idea- you could meet your partner tomorrow, be married in 1-2 years, have a kid by 27-28. Life changes fast. I am early 30s now and so happy I waited to have a kiddo with my partner for life.

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Really??? I'm about to be 26 and I do not want a baby for another 10 years, if ever. Too much responsibility

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I really want a baby but I hang out with my siblings kids and I realize how much more I like my life now.

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More reasons to try it out first, OP. My proposition still stand 😂

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Are you middle eastern?

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Nope

Do you want help conceiving?

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I'll knock u up if you want

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Had kids in my 20s and no regrets. Glad I had the energy of my youth when kids were little! I've been 10 years younger than all of the other moms at school, but not a problem.

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I was just thinking about this the other day😅 Then I remembered all the things I wanted to accomplish before I’m 30.. and I was like “there’s no way I’m gonna do all of that while caring for a baby.” I think ultimately I just want to play and cuddle with a baby.

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That’s what cats are for!

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Spoiler alert kids are a lot of work and take over your life. You have time to wait.

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BDO 2 the point was that 24 year old me may not have been there mentally to understand the responsibility of a baby. My daughter is the greatest gift I’ve ever received. Just a different perspective when you are in your mid 20s compared to 30s.

I have same thoughts but my sister and brother had babies recently and being an uncle really helps with it and opens your eyes to both the good and the bad. Any chance you could fill some of that with friends/family babies ??

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All of you saying to wait so you can “explore” know you can do that with kids right....? It takes some planning but...you can excel at your career and travel and have kids. OP - do what is best for you. Waiting won’t make Mother Nature angry, plenty of people have kids in their 30s! But if you think now makes the most sense for you then you do you!

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I’ll take OP’s leftovers 🙋🏼‍♀️

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I volunteer as tribute

Why do you want a baby besides thinking that they’re cute and precious?

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Wanting to start a family with the person you love?

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I’m with you. Well more so ready to settle down with someone for the rest of my life because I find that beautiful.

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This post gives me so many business ideas albeit very niche. Not sure I’ll have enough volume...🤔

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Demand side. Living alone and could use the amusement and affection of a toddler. (Sadly, creating one of my own isn’t really feasible right now.)

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I will let you take care of mine. I think you will change your mind real quick and decide to wait a couple of years.

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