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*Cries in 6 figures of refinanced loans*
Anyone able to refer to a venture capital firm?
Thoughts of buying snowflake?
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I’d say nothing is wrong—this seems really common, or at least it has been for me. I’ve had several jobs with varying qualities of environment (before and after law) and even the ones that had textbook hostile workplaces still gave me anxiety when I made the leap. I think all of us have an instinctive tendency to overvalue the known vs the unknown (the “devil you know” instinct), but I think women in particular are still treated like we should be grateful we were allowed into the men’s space at all—which is especially true if you’re somewhere that tolerates the kind of inappropriateness you’re describing. I find myself battling the tendency to internalize that attitude a lot. That’s not to say leaving is always the right choice, but make sure if you stay you have a very clear reason for choosing your current position over the new offers beyond anxiety of the unknown. (Edited to clarify some language.)
I relate to so much of this - especially not wanting to leave clients and innocent team members in a bad spot.
I’m in the same boat. Decided to leave and borderline panicking that I am just jumping out of the pot and into the fire.
I relate to the crazy internal deadlines or a higher up waiting to pull the trigger resulting in unrealistic deadlines where work product can get the job done but isnt perfect.
Nothing is wrong with you. I had the same exact experience. It’s Stockholm syndrome. Jump and never look back. Best of luck, you’ve got this.
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Nothing wrong with you. Get out of there
I just went through this myself and after starting a new job, I’m still questioning whether I made the right decision. It’s almost like Stockholm Syndrome. My former boss was toxic and likewise made inappropriate comments and yet. Deep down, I know it was the right call and it sounds like leaving is the right call for you. What’s the worst that can happen? You leave your current job for another toxic job? If that’s the case, go find a third (hopefully, less toxic) job.
Totally normal and don’t take it as a sign that you should stay. I’ve had a couple awful jobs and I still felt slightly anxious leaving. Give it a couple weeks at the new gig and you’ll totally forget about the old firm!
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I agree with Associate 3. Your conduct was not disrespectful. You were behaving like an advocate. That person seems to need to be worshipped. Unfortunately, I have seen/experienced several attorneys who behave like this. ...Leave.