I recently moved to the US for work. Single; went out with a guy from a dating app; he cracked jokes & told what sounded like cautionary story about his friend who married a foreigner and got dumped once she got a green card. I’m confused because I’m from a “wealthy” European country, based on public information I make more than 2x his salary… is it the case that Americans assume everyone dreams about becoming American, regardless of their circumstances? And should i be offended...?

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Crazy how many men talk themselves right out the 🐱. Id be offended because why is this even the topic of convo.

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I know - so odd, it was second date, marriage wasn’t on my mind lol…

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I dated American guy who was literally 2 years post filing bankruptcy (medical bills), had huge college loans balance, and was completely broke ,(lived with his friends for a while) and all his friends and family were freaking out that I'm with him for money and I'm gold digger and just want his money and green card. Americans are weird, esp if you come from a country that's not canada or western Europe

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Not persons future. Persons worth. To this type of Americans its literally someone's worth thats determined by where people are from. Have to say not all are like that so ppl here won't get upset

Can we get married so I can get that EU citizenship though?

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Minor details though

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It may have just been a joke.

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Also we don’t have to keep excusing bad jokes as bad jokes when they’re actually sh1tty things to say

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He may not have many experiences relating to Europeans and told the only story he had. I wouldn’t assume he was thinking you were a green card seeker.

Yes, a lot of Americans, especially less educated and far right ones, have a very skewed perception of the US. They think it’s the best place on earth by a long shot. Most have never traveled outside of US enough to see for themselves it’s not.

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Yikes sounds so much like old timey communist indoctrination (weirdly)…

if you have to question if you should feel offended you probably shouldn’t . it is pretty shitty he thinks like that and thinks people are out to get him but that says more about him than you tbh, you’ve done nothing wrong. but clearly he’s not the one, keep searching - you’re a high value woman don’t settle for less.

It’s actually quite common. Nothing to do with how successful the girl is or isn’t. If their goal is just to get a green card, they will do that by any means necessary.

Edit- girl or guy, I’ve heard it happen both ways

We don’t get many immigrants from wealthy nations, so Americans get a skewed perception of foreigners in general.

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Take it for what it is - a topic of conversation. I used to know someone who this happened to and it was a sad situation and a story to tell. I wouldn’t look further into it seeing as it’s a first date

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