I see a lot of people post about long term relationships. My wife and I are celebrating our 35th wedding anniversary today. We've been poor, house poor, poor again, middle class, upper middle class and now well to do.

We've had many of the problems you would expect over time, multiple careers, lived in 8 states, and raised two children.

It is hard, wonderful, worthwhile and doable.

I hope everyone here gets as lucky as we have been.

Thanks for sharing. My wife and I are approaching 8 years, have 3 kids, lived in 3 states, and it’s been the wildest most rewarding ride.

Our first apt was an unkempt little basement and we traded rent for nannying their kids. I was doing an unpaid internship and hoping for the best.

Our situation is dramatically different now but if you ask me or my wife, it’s those memories that we look back on with great fondness.

She’s literally the greatest thing in the world and I couldn’t be luckier.

Congrats OP. My wife and I are going on 14 years married and 21 together. We lived through me in grad school 1500 miles away me Getting laid off and being a stay at home dad for a while. Losing our life savings trying to keep her dads business going. My wife having postpartum depression with our first. Wife quitting her job to let me have a dream career. A pandemic baby boy (our 5th) with me stuck at home in quarantine. And most recently my taking in our nephew after social services called. and our best friends of the last 10 years telling us they are getting a divorce. It’s been a crazy ride with lots of ups and downs but one we have taken together. Hopefully we will get to number 35 too.

Congratulations!

Curious, what wisdom would you impart for us younger folks in regards to sustaining a relationship as long as you and your wife?

Congratulations on 35 years! Sounds like you did it right. I truly believe everyone should go through a period (hopefully short) where you are poor. Builds character!

Ps: we are in our “30’s” too. Tolerance... tolerance... patience... and a full commitment to go the distance are key.

I'm single and am just as happy!

Congratulations. In a similar situation, but only been married 31 years & raised 3 kids.

Thousands of things I could have or should have done differently, but don't have any regrets with where I am today

Congrats OP.
Wife and I are 5 years in currently in the poor phase (due to student loans and her losing job b.c of coivd)
Hoping to keep working and get into the well to do over the next decade!

Congratulations! My SO and I wake up every day and tell each other that we love one another and we are genuinely happy just to be together. I feel so lucky every day

Congrats on a life well lived OP. Any advice for keeping your marriage going for 35 years? I’m going on 14 years, but find that my generation has lesser tolerance and patience. The opposite was true in my parents’ generation. I often wonder if many of my friends will make it past 30 years of marriage!

My wife and I just had our 1st Anniversary. I feel like if we can make it through our 1st year in a pandemic we can get through the next 34 years. Congratulations!🎈🎊🎉

35th? Wow - congrats !

Thanks MD - what industry are you in and what have you done to get there? Also, how have you managed to keep up a great relationship with your s/o.

Thanks for sharing!

Congrats!

12 years in here. Solidly “well to do” — but went through poor stage together with negative net worth and student loans.

That phase made me appreciate her more. She rode a bike to work for a while when we had one car (prioritized savings) and I got staffed locally. What a trooper!

What an uplifting post!

If you’re open to sharing, what was it like raising kids when you and your wife both had high-powered jobs and career goals? It’s been a topic of conversation lately between my wife and I.

Congrats OP! Our 35th is coming up in a couple of months! We had very similar path, poor, getting by, middle class, and now doing great. No kids, but plenty of nieces and nephews to spoil. It takes work, but we have always kept us as the central part of our relationship.

Congrats! <3

We will hit 40 years on 3/21. Been together since 07/75. “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times...”

Congratulations! I'll keep my fingers crossed that my husband and I can also one day celebrate our 35th wedding anniversary!

I have been in a long term relationship for 31 years with myself and had ups and down but it’s been a wonderful journey. 💚

Congrats OP, and thank you for sharing, it is actually inspiring. We just celebrated 6 years and baby #1 is on the way, exciting times ahead:)

Wow wow wow!!! I hope the best for you and your family moving forward and for continued success. I’m in a marriage with the complete opposite issue, my husband has TOO much money and it destroys a lot. These posts put things in perspective, the grass is always greener.