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I seem to have a factory defect. I am wired in such a way that makes me cry when I’m angry. It happens very rarely, but it happens. How do I deal with this?

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Rage tears are real. Pinch the skin between your thumb and index finger when you feel it coming.

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I feel like this is a very common trait in women... myself included.

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Did I write this??? :)

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I do that as well, as do a lot of my friends.y strategy is to just to ensure you remain calm enough to rationally end the conversation. Then immediately run into the bathroom and cry.

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Same!

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breathe. it helps u disengage in a good way, you remember you’re at work, it’s just a project, job, you’re reacting to, not a terminal disease. A bottle of water is s good distraction if u can enter a meeting/ situation with it. gives u a minute to recalibrate. you’re not defective, maybe more sensitive or wired differently than others.

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Oh, this never happens when it’s an everyday project or work situation. It’s always when things get personal - like when I find out I’m making much less than my male counterpart, or when someone disrespects me in a major way, takes credit for my work, etc

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First thing, you don’t have a factory defect! You have every right to feel the way you do, especially if what leads to those feelings are acts of injustice. Because being unabashed about the virtues in you is #@$#%$# worth it. You know what’s coming. So instead of nailing the windows shut and hiding, speak up about it. Push for what you want. You’re letting the anger and hurt get the best of you, so it’s time to turn the tears into drops of bravery and take positive, thoughtful action instead of crawling into your shell.

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I’m not a psychologist or therapist, but angry crying is complex and complicated. When you’re hurt in these very personal situations, you cry to self soothe and release all the moral discomfort and gross unfairness that you’re feeling in the moment (and probably also from your past). Getting to the root of why you respond like this, with the help of a therapist, could help you learn new ways to cope. I wish you the very best ❤️

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