I split with my BF a year ago (his decision) after four years together (off and on). In your opinion, should all ties be cut? I’m struggling to tell him to stop contacting me.

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Yes, move on. You deserve someone who chooses you, not someone who keeps you on the back burner to yo-yo back and forth. Choose yourself and a committed love.

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Yes, cut ties. No use hanging onto an ex. Give yourself room to grow and progress. Good luck!

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Close one door and another opens

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It is not easy because you two share history, I get it. I have been in the same boat, but it dragged on and caused me problems later when I started dating someone else. Believe me it’s not worth it.

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