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I spoke up about a compensation concern today and I feel like I’m going through a version of the seven stages of grief - first came empowerment, then doubt, now guilt.

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You don’t get what you don’t ask. Kudos for speaking up and asking your worth.

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Yes! Don’t doubt yourself.

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I did the same thing last year and was pleasantly surprised about how supported I was. If we don’t ask we will never know. Your inquiry should be rooted in facts.

I was doubting myself, I spoke to a male colleague about my plan and how I was working up the courage to say something and he replied “yea, men don’t do that” he said if we (men) need more $ we just say it, there is nothing to think about. That was all the encouragement I needed.

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I wish this app were around 20 yrs ago. I was so politically clueless. More power to all of you getting paid what you are worth!

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But at least you asked and if you need to do this in the future you now know it’s not as difficult as we think. Well done!

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@Acc1 My friends always say, “Be a guy: Ask high." I just asked for a 20% raise. If I get 10%, I’ll be happy. If I get 20, that’s better. Men don’t stress about this stuff. They demand what they want and think they’re worth. I’m doing the same. With a smile!

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Appreciate the support. I was told no and there’s circumstances where I understand the no. I’ll be off by x amount for a little while. It’s an opportunity to move and I have to trust the system for a beat

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