I started dating someone and it was going really well, but he recently found out his mother is terminally ill. Since then, he’s pulled away and I’ve been the one to initiate all contact. I’m having...

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Keep the lines of communication open. Check in and ask if you can do anything, bring over food or something. His attention is probably 100% on his mom right now and he’s compartmentalized everything else.

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Ok that’s a good idea

As a person who was in a similar boat (akin to M1 and C1), I would agree more with C1. Frankly, no one knows how things will play out or how this person will change or evolve, but they’ll appreciate every little bit of support they’ll get. Don’t overthink and just try to be there. I’ll be upfront and say, chances are this is one of the hardest if not the hardest phase of this persons life, so you need to be okay giving more than getting and make peace with that. If you’re expecting things in return right now, it’ll only put pressure on you both and not make for a constructive outcome.

Happy to talk or listen in all sorts of detail if you need an ear. Feel free to DM.

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I’d really like to talk more if you have the time. I’m not sure how to send DMs here, but I have a burner email kyrd952@gmail.com

As someone whose parent got terminally ill and passed while I was working in consulting, my advice is this: move on. There's a good chance he won't be the same person after it's all said and done, and no guarantee that he'll even want to strike things back up. I personally wanted a clean break from most everything associated with that time frame. Also, if you push it, he'll just get more distant. It's unfair to you both to try to force the issue.

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Thank you C1. This is really helpful to hear

Approach him from an angle of first being their friend. That should be first and foremost. If he pushes you away further, leave him alone because the last thing you want is to add to his anxiety. Do express to him how you feel though, and ask him how he wants you to be there for him (if he'd like that). Does he need space? Just someone to listen? If he shuts you out there's only so much you can do and at least you have closure knowing you tried.

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A really hard time coping with this and feel like I’ve been rejected, but also trying to recognize that this is beyond me. Thoughts?

Just imagine if this had happened to you what would you react to the other party? Dating is definitely not the priority here.

I need that reminder sometimes because I’ve been driving myself crazy with negative thoughts

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