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I am working in Tata Consultancy kolkata from past 3 years, planning to get transfer to TCS Bangalore(hometown). Will there be any issues if I provide fake medical certificate for my parents? Also now they are forcing me to come back to kolkata office, is there any possibly they may let me work from bangalore office even if my project ODC is not there in bangalore?
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I’m convinced - 95% of men are useless like this. But they strongly believe they’re so helpful and busy. There must be a rare few who are the exception.
Fair and I think we can all agree that this shit is hard!
I agree so much with this post and comments. It just hurts. And then they act like doing anything above the bare minimum is too exhausting, while I'm trying not to completely fall apart. Plus I hate the whole "we'll just tell me what to do." I am not your project manager and I shouldn't have to assign you chores or ask you to spend time with me.
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Not ok. Demand better. Men are capable of caring and change and while we should absolutely raise our sons to know better, it doesn’t mean grown men can’t learn.
Also recommend therapy but I am not also going to raise my husband.
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The “in a minute” thing drives me nuts. I have toddlers so when I yell for help it’s usually time sensitive but he’s still taking his sweet time...
I feel your pain. Hope you feel better soon :)
My strong suggestion is to read the book The Five Love Languages. It sounds like you and your husband may not be speaking the same language. Sometimes things just have to be really spelled out...way more than you'd ever think or you've ever had to do before.
I keep thinking it's just my household then I read things like this. I'm not married though and when I look back on the past it was plain as day. 🙄 I shouldn't have to say something over and over again for you to change your behavior. I'm not your momma and I'm not about to constantly remind you. It's insane
I think this is the constant struggle. NYT had a great article a while back on how women carry the burden of responsibility and the emotional labor in a marriage and if I can find it I’ll share. But in the meantime, here’s a similar article. My husband and I had a long conversation about this and it made a huge difference. He just had no idea how much I was doing behind the scenes to make the house function. Now that he sees it, he’s taken on a huge portion of the burden and it has made our marriage so much better. My husband grew up with a mostly stay at home mom, so he didn’t realize how much work went in to taking care of the house. https://www.nbcnews.com/better/amp/ncna934466
I’m with you! My husband was sick the last week and I did everything, so it was a typical week…
Is marriage a scam? 🤔
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The fairytale marriage is definitely a scam. Marriage is hard work.
Oh I so get it! I get so jealous of friends husbands that are thoughtful. It can be so frustrating.
This was hard to read. I'm so sorry.
My husband does all of the cooking, and cleans our entire house once per week. It is not done perfectly, but it is done, and I can't tell you how much I appreciate it.
I am not telling you this to gloat, but to let you know that this absolutely should not fall entirely on your shoulders. You are a team.
I would recommend talking to your partner about this. In my experience, often times men need certain things spelling out. It's not that they don't care, they just sometime perhaps don't realize how much certain things mean to you/ upset you/ or what you really want from them.
Clear and consistent communication is key. Hang in there, and see how the conversation goes.
I feel this so much. I’ve had to tell/task my husband vs. asking him.