I tell myself that I've come to terms with my husband not being very thoughtful or helpful around the house. But I was sick last weekend and he didn't even unload the dishwasher or put away the laundry I'd already done, and when I asked him to help me by getting me drinks and stuff, he would tell me 'in a minute' because he was on his phone, and then he'd get to it eventually or forget. It's like, can you pretend to care just a little?

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I’m convinced - 95% of men are useless like this. But they strongly believe they’re so helpful and busy. There must be a rare few who are the exception.

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Fair and I think we can all agree that this shit is hard!

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I agree so much with this post and comments. It just hurts. And then they act like doing anything above the bare minimum is too exhausting, while I'm trying not to completely fall apart. Plus I hate the whole "we'll just tell me what to do." I am not your project manager and I shouldn't have to assign you chores or ask you to spend time with me.

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Not ok. Demand better. Men are capable of caring and change and while we should absolutely raise our sons to know better, it doesn’t mean grown men can’t learn.

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Also recommend therapy but I am not also going to raise my husband.

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The “in a minute” thing drives me nuts. I have toddlers so when I yell for help it’s usually time sensitive but he’s still taking his sweet time...

I feel your pain. Hope you feel better soon :)

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My strong suggestion is to read the book The Five Love Languages. It sounds like you and your husband may not be speaking the same language. Sometimes things just have to be really spelled out...way more than you'd ever think or you've ever had to do before.

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I keep thinking it's just my household then I read things like this. I'm not married though and when I look back on the past it was plain as day. 🙄 I shouldn't have to say something over and over again for you to change your behavior. I'm not your momma and I'm not about to constantly remind you. It's insane

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I’m with you! My husband was sick the last week and I did everything, so it was a typical week…

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Is marriage a scam? 🤔

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The fairytale marriage is definitely a scam. Marriage is hard work.

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Oh I so get it! I get so jealous of friends husbands that are thoughtful. It can be so frustrating.

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This was hard to read. I'm so sorry.

My husband does all of the cooking, and cleans our entire house once per week. It is not done perfectly, but it is done, and I can't tell you how much I appreciate it.

I am not telling you this to gloat, but to let you know that this absolutely should not fall entirely on your shoulders. You are a team.

I would recommend talking to your partner about this. In my experience, often times men need certain things spelling out. It's not that they don't care, they just sometime perhaps don't realize how much certain things mean to you/ upset you/ or what you really want from them.

Clear and consistent communication is key. Hang in there, and see how the conversation goes.

I feel this so much. I’ve had to tell/task my husband vs. asking him.

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