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I think I’m falling for my mother in law. The feelings aren’t necessarily sexual in nature. They seem to be much deeper and emotional feelings—which I get would concern my wife more so than sexual feelings. It doesn’t help that everyone thinks my MIL finds me to be her “favorite” in addition to some other complicating nuances. Obviously, I won’t act on these feelings, but as the years go by, the closer we’re going to get since she’s around a lot and we talk quite often when we’re alone.

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Are you the same manager who thinks about your wife’s sister during sex?

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Nice nfl reference.

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I’m just gonna say it. This is weird.

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Stop ostracizing the fine people of ____<name the state/region of the country>______. go!

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Would you leave your wife for her?

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No, I wouldn’t

The song "Stacey's Mom" just started playing in my head when I read this.

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Milf?

What nuances?

@Associate 1: While the idea of a good, religious husband is common, what makes it complicated in this instance is that the MIL practices in secret to avoid any snide remarks from her spouse, while I do the same. Additionally, the other husbands she knows of have treated their spouses in ways that are grounds for either divorce or an extremely strained and difficult marriage. When someone says “wanna trade husbands” even in a joking manner, it makes emotions and feelings much more complicated.

What do you plan to do with your feelings? Express them to her?

See comments above, but I think this is speaking to something more that you’re missing in your current marital relationship than it is about your MIL.

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The feeling will pass.

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