I think I’m falling out of love and it’s so sad to feel so cold towards my boyfriend. He really is the most amazing guy and treats me like nobody ever has done before but there’s just something missing and I can’t explain it. I feel like I’m losing the most amazing person ever, but I can’t just make myself to feel like I used to before. I don’t even know how to tell him 😩😭😭

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Sometimes the relationship just runs it’s course 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Are you on a new medication? Birth control or antidepressant? Do you feel this in general or just about him?

I had the same issue with an ex. Later realized that the birth control was making me feel numb in all my relationships. Antidepressants had the same effect as did actual depression.

Another note, most “love” is actually lust. It’s an feeling based on external sources that takes very little energy to achieve. Most people hit the end of lust around 12-24 months. Real love is an action. It doesn’t just happen. The feeling of love requires effort, whether to make them dinner or listen to them talk for an hour about some silly topic. It’s helping and caring for them.

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Good news: if you work at it, you get those cute adorable happy feelings again. 🥰

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Relationships and feelings evolve. No one carries that initial spark and intensity throughout a relationship. There is so much to be said for contentment. It really is the anchor to most successful long term relationships. Relish in that contentment and stop looking for fireworks. It’s a wonderful comfort zone that withstands the test of time. Happy and content for 35+ years.

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I feel this way when I’m depressed or my hormones are out of whack.

Or, sometimes we just evolve in different ways from people.

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What do you think you are missing to feel this way? Is there something lacking that isn’t being fulfilled or you have some one else in mind?

Did you put in the w.o.r.k.? If you don't and just give up that's sad

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