I think more than anything... Making/having friends as an adult is one of the most emotionally draining things ever. It genuinely feels like no one knows how to be friends anymore. Cont...

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I get that people have stuff they need to do but how can you say someone is your friend when you only talk/text/hang out once every 6 months or when you just happen to be out together. What happened to friends who you actually see pretty often or those “hey wanna go watch a movie?” people... Am i missing something?

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I think the nature of friendship changes as we get older. Gone are the days of weekly game nights and hangover brunches and last-minute opportunities to socialize. We don't have as much time to spend cultivating a social group, so when we do, it has to go deep, not broad, and that's hard to do. I feel you, Grey.

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Definitely feel you. Making new friends is really difficult. Having friends can be a challenge but sometimes you have to take the initiative and be the one who keeps asking to do stuff/chat. Once you get it going, it’ll become automatic for y’all to pick up and get out there. You’re carving a spot for yourself in the other person, and vice versa. “I wonder what X is doing this weekend?"

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Change country. Become an expat and you join a group of everyone having to make friends. You have to get out and meet people, and you will meet some wackos, but you’ll also meet like minds who are looking for friendships in a new country, those bonds become quite strong .

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Getting older + social media. It's tough.

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When you’re young, friends ARE your life. As you get older and develop your actual life, friends become a nice part of it, rather than the purpose of it, as other things develop.

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@IT Manager 1 -
That doesn’t work all the time. When you change country, you become surrounded by people you don’t know at all, people with different mentalities and already formed friend circles. It’s extremely hard to plug yourself into those groups especially when you work around the clock.
So it’s never easy. And it’s especially hard when you’re an expat!!

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