I think my partner is making my eating disorder worse. It seems like he is very conscious of weight or at least looks, and I feel like he often tries to deter me from eating (like if I mention a late lunch he'll reply that we're having dinner soon so to hold off). I'm not sure if he is even aware of it, but he knows about my issues so it makes me wonder. My ED also runs rampant so it could be all in my head. Does anyone have experience dealing with this? I want to say something but not sure how.

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My partner used to do the same. It was okay the first couple of times but it got worse when she started doing it more frequent when I was quiet and followed. At one point I lose it and we got into a big fight. Moral is please communicate with him how you feel. He is probably thinking that he is doing you a favor, but probably he doesn’t realize he is hurting your feelings

Maybe you need to communicate better or maybe you need a new partner.

I struggled with an ED for a long time when I was younger. My partner at the time used to try to control my eating habits by saying similar things to me. He knew about my eating disorder and it only made it worse.

You could try communicating by saying, "I know that holding off til dinner works for you, but it doesn't work for me. I know when I need to eat and I hope you can respect that."

If he doesn't respect that, you might need a new partner.

I would go a step further than this and let him know that you need his support in making the right choices. Not only should he respect that you need to eat when you feel, but should be encouraging you to make better choices on days where you’re struggling. Not in a sense where he’s controlling any of your diet, but just being supportive in general

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