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I think my work is starting to suffer. I know I should care but ... I just don’t. Honestly feeling pretty hopeless right now.

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Self care, OP. Be kind to yourself and listen to what these feelings are telling you, discuss them with your therapist and set very small goals for yourself. I mean small! Like, today I will hydrate more. Or today, I will take a 30 minute break and walk the neighborhood. Just one. Then tomorrow another one. Hopelessness is a depression thing (speaking from experience and 30 years of living with clinical depression.) Depression and anxiety can be overwhelming and coming out of it even more so. Get a good therapist if you don’t already have a great relationship
established, talk to your MD about it and explore whether meds may be appropriate, and by all means, be kind to yourself. Those feelings are trying to tell you something. So listen with an open mind and know that you are enough. We work in a tough environment. Super competitive and we don’t always interact with the kindest souls out here on the dark side. You are enough. Just the way you are. Good luck and peace to you. :)

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D1, I’m sorry that you have to deal with this too. Thank you for your suggestions and kind words. I tell myself a lot of this, but it’s still hard to do. It helps to hear it from others. My therapist is great and we have a good relationship, it’s definitely been hard to go so long without it. I am on medication but have been debating talking to my GP about trying something different.

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I don’t really know what to do anymore. I feel like I’m just doing the bare minimum to get through every day.

I was just starting to make progress in therapy but then had to take about a month off due to scheduling issues. I’m going back tomorrow and kind of dreading it, but hopefully that will help...

Are you on any meds?

Hey OP, therapy is great. Do you exercise? If not, please take that up. It will change your life. Here’s a weird tip too: try cutting all wheat from your life to see if that impacts your mood and motivation

C1, yes, Wellbutrin for about 9 months. It helped at first but not much after the first few months.

DD1, I do exercise, haven’t been as much lately but am still fairly active. I walk a lot every day and do some sort of exercise (running / spin / yoga / erg) at least twice a week. Interesting idea on wheat. Not sure I can do something that restrictive at the moment but I will look into it.

@OP - my therapist will do video conf sessions which helps tremendously when I’m slammed w work or traveling. She has a secure HIPAA compliant platform that she uses with patients and all she asks is that I not be multitasking and trying to do other things which I of course respect. Much better than a call if I can’t make it in for a live session, so maybe that’s a way you can stay on track with your therapy plan.

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